Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the latter only “changed” once I reached junior high (and neurotic attitudes so typical of that time in everyone’s life). My experiences have been so varied since, I’ve come to the conclusion that people with negative, petty personalities are the ones who nitpick, and others who don’t can see my fine features and my body in a more whole way. I’ve been hit on more often than I can count, with a positive, self-respecting attitude. Any dissing guys later admitted they did it out of spite, because if I saw my body as beautiful I might leave them. It’s about power, not love… and not splitting yourself into “fragments” — or being pressured to, so others can feel “more” than you. Consider the source!
– Bentje, responding to the post “Wise Guys – Can a Sexy Attitude Really Compensate for a So-So Body?”