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Comment of the Week – You’re So Money and You Don’t Even Know It

Wed, Sep 15, 2010

Comment of the Week, Confessions

photo by Mangiu

Our regular commenter/contributor Figleaf weighed in on the body image debate in last week’s Wise Guy installment:

Based on quite a bit of personal sex-pundit research into people’s attitudes about their own self-images.¬† People have an extraordinary eye for their own flaws.¬† Even weirder, we have an unbelievable tendency to fret about parts of our own bodies that we ourselves never notice about other people!¬† The classic example being noses — we’re generally remarkably critical of our own (to most plastic surgeon’s delight) yet repeated studies show that even highly-critical people are overwhelmingly unlikely to judge the noses of other people.¬† (Clue: noses are too close to eyes for most people to spend much time assessing them — eyes are just way more expressive and attention-getting.)

Another good example was from a confidant who worried that her upper arms looked funny when she reached back to take off her bra.¬† When in fact if someone’s taking off her bra <em>nobody</em> — not her partner, not her doctor, not even her mom — is going be looking at her arms.¬† And never mind that <em>everybody’s</em> arms, men’s, women’s, athletes, and accountants, look “funny” when they reach back like that.

And finally to answer the first part of your question?  Yes, a sexy attitude (especially a sexy <em>unconcerned</em> attitude!) definitely compensates for all manner of flaws: real and imaginary flaws, visible and character flaws too.

– figleaf

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3 Responses to “Comment of the Week – You’re So Money and You Don’t Even Know It”

  1. sexcuse moi Says:

    Couldn’t agree more!

  2. figleaf Says:

    Wow. Thanks you two!

    figleaf

  3. Janet Faulkner Says:

    when men say they will call,it means before they are dead……


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