Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the best way to get your boyfriend/husband to dress up for Halloween with you, especially if he’s reluctant?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Straight Married Guy (Matt): I’ve read about women in NYC who trade blowjobs for their partners’ closet space. I’m sure there’s a blowjob-to-costume ratio here that would leave both sides feeling happy with the arrangement. Part of me hates this idea, and feels like blowjobs (like flowers) ought to be given just because, and not used as some sort of bargaining chip. The same goes for wearing a costume. She wants a fun night out on Halloween — is it really that hard to put the tiniest bit of effort into a costume? Maybe the simplest answer is a post-party reward that’s more mutually gratifying, like telling him you want to have his Mark Antony take your Cleopatra at the end of the night. This probably limits the costume choices somewhat, in that sex is not going to sound nearly as appealing if you’re dressed as a zombie or Fozzie Bear or Raggedy Ann or whatever. Still, as a fallback, he’d probably gladly take a blowjob from any of them.
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): Halloween dress-up is tricky business since some guys hate it or think it’s wanky. Look, the absolute best thing you can do is choose a costume that is cool. I know this is completely subjective, but you should know your man better than anyone. By cool I also mean the costume should be 100% not 75% or 80%, but absolutely 100% with all accessories. If it’s a cowboy, you need a real hat, good boots, awesome chaps, cowboy shirt and rope. Half-assed doesn’t cut it on Halloween. Not that I think cowboy costumes are all that cool. I’d think an astronaut costume with a badass helmet and some lights inside would be cool.
Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I feel bad for guys who don’t like costume parties — lighten up, homes. Step one is to get a costume that he’ll think makes him look cool, is comfortable in, and his friends will recognize and appreciate (like the Dude from The Big Lebowski). Drinks and a steady barrage of compliments will help. If he doesn’t bite, remember that relationships are a give-and-take operation and you may have to trade for something you’re not thrilled about. If he’s still being a big GD baby about the whole thing, give up. It’s not worth a grudge. If you’re not above being conniving, let him know that you may costume partner with someone else.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Tom Miller writes the Tomfoolery blog for YourTango; Terence is an American living in Sydney; Matt is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.