Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I’m currently seeing a guy, X, for the past month and a half and things have been amazing! Chemistry is great, sex is phenomenal; basically I’m on cloud number 9. But because of a previous abusive relationship I was in, I sometimes feel very insecure and my imagination gets the worst of me when, for example, he doesn’t reply to my messages right away. I’ve been losing a lot of sleep because of the stress but two nights ago I had a really nice dream. X and I were sitting in the back seat of a cab and he whispers that he loves me. I open his palm and with a red marker I write “I <3 U T” which I’m figuring means I love you too. We then just look at each other and smile. We haven’t said the I love yous yet and another point which may or may not be relevant is that I usually dream in black and white. Occasionally I get one color in, like the red in this dream. What does it mean? Thanks! –PL
Lauri: Far too often, people that have been abused or betrayed in past relationships bring the pain with them into current and future relationships, which is unfair. Why punish a current relationship for the sins of a former relationship? Your inner mind knows better than this and is therefore trying to help you through this dream.
In your dream you are sitting in the back of a cab together. That is a good sign that you two are equal in this relationship since neither one of you is behind the wheel. He whispers â€śI love youâ€ť because you know, deep down, he does even though he hasnâ€™t â€śvoicedâ€ť it in real life. It is a whisper of knowledge within you.
You then open his hand. This could represent the fact that you want him to â€śopen upâ€ť to you and actually say it, as that may offer you more security in the relationship. None the less, your dream is reassuring you that this is likely to happen because you write that you love him too on his palm and the palm represents the future, hence palm readings. Also, it may suggest that heâ€™s got you in the palm of his handâ€¦ you totally dig him, donâ€™t you? But this does make me wonder if the past, abusive relationship was physically abusive, in which case his hand could represent what you fear but that you are now beginning to trust.
Whatever the case, the loving smile at the end of the dream is the most important element as that is the reassurance your inner self is giving you that this relationship is good and there is no need for stress and worryâ€¦ so relax my dear.
Oh! One last thing, you mention that most of your dreams are in black and white. The truth is that we dream in color. If you see in color your dreams will be in color too. However, muted colors or grey-toned dreams are a sign of depression. If this is the case with you, you may want to talk to your doctor about that. Life can be wonderful, no need to go through it in a cloud of grey.
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