Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Why Do Guy Friends Keep Falling for Me?

Dear Em & Lo, How does one gracefully say “Thanks, but no thanks”? It seems to happen a lot to me: I treat the guy like a friend — meaning I don’t make innuendo (no puns please!) nor banter, etc., I just converse fercrissake! — and a few weeks (or months, or hours) later he’s […]

Pop Culture
Should You Shave Your Legs?

There are idiots out there (not unlike creationists and climate change deniers) who have been sold a bill of goods and believe that the female of the species is naturally hairless, but those with their feet on the ground know that ladies can hold their own in the fur department — it’s what happens when […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – What’s the #1 Relationship Deal-Breaker for Men?

photo by B_Rosen Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What is the number one deal-breaker for guys in relationships?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Sexual compatibility, which could include chemistry, quantity, styles, kink-acceptance, and/or willingness to explore, monogamy versus polyamory. […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: An Officer and a Gentlewoman

photo by maureen lunn Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: The man I have feelings for is an officer; I am enlisted in the military, so a relationship is […]

Scientifically Proven First-Date Questions

image via OKTrends Regular readers of this blog will know that we are mildly obsessed with the dating research blog OKTrends (it’s attached to the dating site OKCupid) — check out our past coverage of OKTrends on the myth of gay evangelism, the (consistent, predictable) way we lie online, misconceptions about online profile photos, and the […]

Blog Snog: The 5 Commandments of Breaking Up

YourTango: The 5 commandments of breaking up (in honor of Break Up with Your Ex Day, Feb 13th). TomFoolery: We could all use a makeover every now and then. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Choosing between good sex and monogamy. TresSugar: 5 steps to making a man a better lover. TheFrisky: The suckiest Valentine’s Day gifts. CollegeCandy: Can […]

2nd Annual Unmarriage Until Gay Marriage Ceremony

For the second year in a row, the Reverend Billy and the Church of Life After Shopping will be celebrating this Valentine’s Day weekend with an un-marriage ceremony for straight married couples who support gay marriage at The Bethesda Fountain in NYC’s Central Park on Sunday from 1 – 2pm. The idea is “no marriage […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Many Times Can She Take Him Back?

photo by ken ratcliff We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em […]

Naked News: Man Boobs Are Taking Over the World

Breast reduction surgery…for men increased 28% in the U.K. last year. On a possibly related note, a new study of single people shows gender roles reversing, with women desiring more independence in relationships and men more keen for marriage and kids. Study shows that 83% of NYC sex workers use Facebook to advertise their services. […]

How To
How to Turn Your Bedroom Into a Den of Iniquity

photo by greenfaerietree Before a hot date, you (hopefully) shower, put on clean underwear, dress up nicely and generally get gussied up. If there’s any chance you’ll end up back at your place, then your bedroom deserves the same sort of preparation and attention. Here are ten steps to turning your bedroom into a genuine […]