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Dear Em & Lo,
The guy I started dating 8 years ago was (and is) an awesome guy.¬† He was basically everything I ever wanted out of a guy, and more.¬† The problem always has been that we almost never have sex.¬† We have sex 4 times a year if I’m lucky… let’s just say I got laid more when I was single.¬† There’s nothing wrong with the equipment, he just has a low sex drive.
Moreover, he’s not the same guy I started dating.¬† He’s become like a 10 year old boy.¬† He never wants to go anywhere, he just wants to play video games.¬† He’s become a massive workaholic, we never do anything fun together.¬† And, quite honestly, I think that he would have sex with me if he had to do it for work.
I stopped initiating sex as of about 2 years ago, because I didn’t want to be rejected any more. We’ve tried everything that we can think of.¬† The few times a year he does feel like having sex, it’s boring.¬† Worse, he doesn’t even shower, or brush his teeth during the weekend so we can’t do anything spontaneous.
Clearly, I’m going to break up with him, but not until I get disability (I really can’t work)… and this makes me a terrible person.¬† Also, I really want to have sex with other people, which definitely makes me a terrible person.¬† But doesn’t withholding sex kind of make him selfish and shitty, too?¬† I know 2 wrongs don’t make a right, but I HAVE to get laid.¬† I’d love to hear what you guys & The Peanut Gallery have to say…
– Blue Box
What should BB do?