Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses her heartbreak soundtrack:
I had been living with my boyfriend for two months. We paid bills and grocery shopped and made animal noises at weird hours in the night. And then he left. He had to go back to school. I decided to be an adventurer and take the semester off, a decision that seemed perfect prior to forming amazing friends. All I wanted to do was cry into my mug and explain to the stranger next to me at this cafĂ© the beautiful confusion of love. Damn social boundaries. You constrain me. So instead I made a play-list for the yearning heartâ€¦complete with links to the songs!
1. â€śYouâ€™re Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Goâ€ťâ€”Bob Dylan
Dylan, the ultimate cool-man vagabond, finally (!) admits his vulnerability. Even the harmonica seems to be crying joyful tears of lost love. Sadness is a bitch. â€śIâ€™ll see you in the sky aboveâ€¦In the tall grassâ€¦In the ones I loveâ€¦â€ť I couldnâ€™t find a Dylan version, but hereâ€™s a good cover.
2. â€śTrue Love Will Find You in The Endâ€ťâ€”Daniel Johnston
Listening to this song is like getting a hug from a child. The kid tells you everything will be all right and you smile at their innocent optimism. The truth is a bitch.
â€śCause true love is searching too
But how can it recognize you
Unless you step out into the light?â€ť
3. â€ťSea of Loveâ€ťâ€”Cat Power
Part love song. Part lullaby. It is impossible to listen to this song without imagining a loved one. Memory can be a bitch.â€¨â€¨â€śCome with meâ€¦my loveâ€¦to the seaâ€¦the sea of loveâ€¦â€ť
4. â€śYouâ€™re Going Backâ€ť â€“Tallest Man on Earth
The ultimate bye-for-now-but-I still-love-you song. The singer is explaining inevitable change. Timing is a bitch.
â€śLet us float in the tears
Let us cry from the laughter
When it’s not for some sake
And the city’s not near
Well now, you’re going backâ€ť
5. â€śThe Trapeze Swingerâ€ťâ€”Iron and Wine
I was unable to put this song on without crying. I felt the tears bubbling in my nose. Sadness soup brewing in my sinuses. Reality is a bitch.
â€śMy hand between your knees, you turn from me
And said the trapeze act was wonderful
But never meant to lastâ€ť
6. “A Case of Youâ€ťâ€”Joni Mitchell
Welcome to the life of a lonely artist. That lady understood the confusion of love. Vagueness is a bitch.
â€śOh but you are in my blood you’re my holy wine
You’re so bitter, bitter and so sweetâ€ť
7. “Samsonâ€ťâ€”Regina Spekter
Genius. Pure genius. Plus a piano. The fact that we share a last name only boasts my adoration of Ms. Specter. Unrequited love is a bitch.
â€śI loved you first , I loved you first
Beneath the stars came falling on our heads
But they’re just old light
They’re just old lightâ€ť
8. â€śPlease, Please, Please Let me Get What I Wantâ€ťâ€”The Smiths
Morrisseyâ€™s voice sounds like a heartbroken crypt keeper. Itâ€™s eerie and beautiful. Wanting is a bitch.
â€śHavenâ€™t had a dream in a long timeâ€¦â€ť
9. â€śAnother Lonely Dayâ€ťâ€”Ben Harper
This was the anthem to my why-doesnâ€™t-heâ€”love-me days of high school. Somewhere between the lyrics and the mildly upbeat melody, loneliness morphs into contentment. The narrator is so used to sadness he is forced to accept it as the norm. Cycles of love are a bitch.
â€śYes indeed I’m alone again
and here comes emptiness crashing in
it’s either love or hate
I can’t find in betweenâ€ť
10. â€śHallelujahâ€ť â€“Jeff Buckley edition
Poetry coming alive. Believing is a bitch.
â€śIt’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujahâ€ť