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Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Watching Porn with a Partner?

Tue, Apr 12, 2011

Advice, Wise Guys

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do men feel about watching porn with a partner? Is it sexy? High pressure? Awkward? Distracting?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): Can’t say I watch it much… with the ol’ lady, that is! (My many girlfriends all love it.) Guess I’m just old-fashioned — I’ve always thought of it as strictly masturbation material. Which is not to say you can’t jack-off in the company of your partner but (again, I’m old-fashioned!) why bother when you could actually have sex with each other instead?

Would I categorically oppose the idea? No, of course not. I’m game for most things, but I think our boudoir would have to get a little more boring before I suggested it. Right now, with two little kids, time constraints and exhaustion pose a greater threat to our sex life than a lack of novelty. But hey, I know the knock on marriage, so I’m sure that’s coming too! And when it does, let’s just hope Netflix decides to start streaming straight-up nasty porn as part of its $8/month service, so we don’t go into the hole (financially).

daniel_100Gay Single Guy (Daniel): As a queer man, watching porn with my partner would probably be downright¬†HAWT. It’s just a way to prime the pump. For heterosexual couples, I suppose¬†it is more awkward if the two partners aren’t totally open about what turns¬†them on and aren’t particularly open about exploring. So the only way to¬†make it hot and low-pressure is to be open and honest about turn-ons and¬†expectations. Sounds simple because it is.

mark_luczak_100Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I just recently happened upon this insightful article and thought it relevant enough to include. With continually growing¬†access to and acceptance of porn, it follows that it might be¬†integrating into couples’ routines as much as it always has with¬†oneself. Being less taboo can correspond to less awkward, and being less
of a novelty can mean less pressure. I’ve found that porn can actually¬†serve as a positive distraction from the occasional physical¬†roadblock or mental hangup in a sesh that might otherwise threaten to¬†derail it. Oh, and is porn with a partner sexy? Hell. Yes.

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is David Jacobs, a NYC-based photographer; our Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; and our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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4 Responses to “Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Watching Porn with a Partner?”

  1. matbo Says:

    Eh, tried it a couple times, neither me nor the boyfriend were fans. He’d much rather look at me (or made it seem like he did) and it was kind of awkward ( I didn’t want to seem too interested, or rather more interested in porn than him).
    I might do it again in a far away future if we needed a serious kick in the pants, but mainly it’s something that’s just very awkward to do together for us, alone good, together bad.
    If I were to do it again (which I’m not) I’d show a fun, campy clip say “we can do it better than that!” and drag him to the bedroom.

  2. Johnny Says:

    Eh… not that hot. It’s kind of a distraction. I’d do it if my girl wanted to, but I probably wouldn’t suggest it.

  3. calliope Says:

    Tried it before – basically it was just sex, and there happened to be porn playing in the background.

  4. Holly Says:

    Me and my boyfriend (I’m a girl) tried it once and we just couldn’t stop laughing! We both watch quite a lot of porn when the other isn’t there and we’re both cool with that, but together, we were just laughing too hard!


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