Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I’m embarrassed to say that in my late teens when I worked on construction crews I’d join my, um, colleagues in catcalling women passers-by from high up on the scaffolding. And I’m pretty sure I did it for the same reason most of them did: to reassure each other, and possibly ourselves, that we weren’t gay. Or at least that we were all on the same page. And yeah, that sounds as stupid now as it actually was then. Call it homophobia-phobia. It’s a completely unnecessary anxiety that I think drives a lot of guys to do some pretty damaging stuff.
Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Evolution. It’s mating behavior. I’m absolutely certain of this, because, as somebody not bound by traditional gender politics, I’ll tell you that the first time a man cat-called me, in the summer after my senior year of high school, I just about melted into a puddle of goo, which would have been unfortunate, given that I was driving at the time. But I would have been on my back for him in thirty seconds if he’d followed up. The power imbalance between men and women has made cat-calling inappropriate in our society, but at least so far the survival of the fittest hasn’t noticed.
Straight Single Guy (David Grossman): Men cat call because they’re rude, immature bastards. Real men know how to talk to women.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. David Grossman recently graduated from Stony Brook University in New York; this week’s Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish; and our Straight Married Guy is Figleaf, the guy behind RealAdultSex.com. To ask the guys your own question, click here.