Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights areÂ never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it more as seduction; it can take all day, if notÂ days â€“ or it can just take a look.Â Here are five examples of what foreplay can (and should) be:
1 Slowing down time, cultivating the senses and setting a sex-conducive scene â€“ think music, wine, a bubble bath, Chinese take-out on the best china â€” and yes, candles.
2 Sharing a kinky secret over dinner (e.g., Did I ever tell you how much it turns me on when … )
3 Giving a gift that makes you both blush.
4 Sending a text message at noon with explicit instructions for that evening (e.g., be home @ 7, b showered & naked on bed & I will [insert your own dirty promise].)
5 Three words: Full. Body. Massage.
A tip about seduction: Making and keeping sex special is not impossible, as long as you make time for seduction and accept that it won’t always come naturally. But just because something takes a bit of effort doesn’t mean it’s out of place in the bedroom. If seduction feels â€śsilly,â€ť then it’s probably because you’re not doing it often enough. In the beginning, you yearn and youâ€™re driven to seduce; later, you seduce so that you can yearn again. At first, you seduce in order to entice someone into your bedroom; later, you seduce to remind that person why he or she is there. You’d be a fool to take someone’s presence in your bed for granted atÂ any timeÂ â€” seduce deliberately and with good intentions, and you’ll show that you don’t.