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Wise Guys: What’s Bad Dirty Talk?

Tue, Jun 14, 2011

Advice, Wise Guys

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Is the word “penis” a buzz-killer during dirty talk? What other words/phrases should be avoided?”

Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Penis penis penis penis penis! It’s just such a funny word, isn’t it? Penis! And laughter is not exactly the response most people are going for during dirty talk. Instead of saying “Your penis is so hard” try saying “You are so hard” We can usually figure out what you mean. Rather than saying “I want your penis inside of me” try saying “I want YOU inside of me.”Basically substituting the word “you” for penis will always work. Let’s face it, you already think we ARE our penises anyway. Here are some tips to keep sexy talk sexy:

  • “You make me so wet” is sexy. “You make me so moist” is disgusting. Never say this. Ever.
  • Saying my name in a soft sensual voice is hot! Saying your ex-boyfriends name is just not cool .
  • “Spank me!” can be a huge turn on if timed right. “Choke me, punch me, gag me etc” typically is confusing and can lead to a 911 call.
  • General rule of thumb: say what comes naturally and it will probably be OK. Unless what comes naturally to you involves animals, diapers and motor oil, you might want to practice in front of a mirror for a bit.

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): Yes. In fact, all anatomically accurate words should be avoided. Referring to our “glans” or “member” will only remind us of shameful sex ed, or, if we’ve been really unlucky, visits to the hospital. Also off-limits are comical, childish names – talk about our “wiener” or “boner” and we’ll see the school bully when we look at you, playground taunts ringing in our ears. At the other end of the spectrum are the kind of graphic descriptions used by porn stars: “fuck stick”, “rod”, any meat-related metaphors. We’ve seen what those guys are packing, and aren’t going to be flattered by comparisons. Actually, it’s probably easier to list the safe words for the ol’ chubby (another no-no): “cock” and “dick”. Established, appropriately aggressive, with no dodgy connotations. And that’s it. Trust us – dirty talk is no time to get creative with a guy’s… dick.

Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): Yes, a complete buzzkill.  Also buzzkills:  “yeah, fondle my gonads”, “oooh, my vagina is on fire right now, “that’s it, tickle my perineum” and “yeah daddy, that’s your vulva, all yours.”  Avoid at all costs.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook, a British writer/illustrator working in Berlin with his photographer wife on their cool blog, Überlin; our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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3 Responses to “Wise Guys: What’s Bad Dirty Talk?”

  1. matbo Says:

    I just find the words dick and cock and the likes to be way to porno like. I prefer to use the words penis and vagina or the sort of vague definitions of “I want you inside of me”…occasionally I also find myself saying how much I just want to be as close as possible to my bf…He knows what I mean and it a romantic sweet thing to say… At least I alway melt when he says it to me.

  2. Spider Says:

    My boyfriend used the word pelvis once during sex. Pelvis? Really? Soooo not sexy.

  3. sugarmag Says:

    I think that we all feel differently about different words and the best way to find out what words your partner likes is to ask. Talking about sex with your partner is fun and leads to better sex.


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