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Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down

Sat, Jun 25, 2011

Advice, Dear Em & Lo, Your Call

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We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below:

Dear Em & Lo,

I hate going down on guys. Always have. I gag, I choke, I think it tastes gross. My boyfriend likes receiving oral, of course, and I want to make him happy, but I don’t think I should have to force myself to do something I thoroughly don’t enjoy just for his pleasure, especially when there are plenty of other things we can do — and do do — to get him (and myself) off. Am I being unreasonable? I wouldn’t ask him to do something he really didn’t want to do. And I can’t help but think, If someone’s got to make a sacrifice in this relationship, why can’t it be him sacrificing his desire for BJs, since that won’t result in him throwing up? (Btw, I enjoy receiving cunnilingus, but it’s not a deal breaker — I can take it or leave it. My boyfriend says he enjoys giving it to me, so that only adds tit-for-tat pressure!)

– That Blows

What should TB do?

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51 Responses to “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down”

  1. Sheila Says:

    Nobody should have to do what they don’t feel comfortable with.
    Here’s what I do- don’t hate.
    I lay across my husband, my hair in the way because “I don’t like him to watch”. I then start kissing and licking and make him and my hand VERY wet. I start the head bobbing with my hand and what he thinks is my mouth, but is acually under my chin. I use my mouth only to lick and remoisten his penis and apply the right amount of pressure. I make noises and am very enthusiastic. When he comes he does it under my chin and onto my neck but he thinks it’s in my mouth and I’m a “spitter”.
    He gets this once a week at night with the lights out and loves every second of his completely fake blowjob.
    Everyone’s happy.

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