Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, the EMandLO.com dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
So in real life there is this guy that I’m currently talking to on the internet. He seems really cool, and he’s as close as anyone would ever get to being the replica of a guy I once dated. But this guy has an odd vibe to him, he’s really aware of his feelings and is quite picky about his relationships.
Now to the dream: he was like the perfect lover I’ve never had. He just seemed to shine with a million suns behind him. He was so sweet in the dream. But the thing is, he seemed to me like he was sucking the energy out of me, like there was no way to get out of his grasp. He was like a mad man when I would talk to other men in the dream, and if I asked permission to leave the house he’d tie me up.
I’m completely confused. I’ve never had a dream like this when I didn’t even know the person physically.
Lauri: It is the deepest and wisest part of our mind at work when we dream, our intuition so to speak. This is why it is so imperative to pay attention to and understand what we are telling ourselves through our dreams. I believe your dream is giving you a heads up about this guy‚Ä¶ not that he is actually a possessive psychopath but that there is something your inner mind is picking up on that you need to be made aware of.
You mentioned that he is really cool so it is obvious that the two of you have made a connection with each other. That is where the sex comes in. Sex, to the dreaming mind, is about connecting with someone psychologically. You must really dig the connection you two have had thus far. You also mentioned he is almost an exact replica of an ex boyfriend. That is where the grasp he has on you comes in. Ask yourself why your ex is an ex. What went wrong? ¬†And can you see how the same thing could go wrong with this new guy?
Your dream may be warning you that you could be getting yourself into another relationship that isn’t going to work out for the very same reason the former relationship didn’t work out, which means you have to be very careful that you don’t fall into the same pattern of behavior with the men you choose to date. So many of us keep choosing the same type of person to date again and again and we wonder why we can’t find Mr. or Mrs. Right. So I don’t think this dream is warning you that he himself is going to tie you up and hold you prisoner but it is rather a warning that you could be held prisoner by choosing the same type of person again and again.
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