Dear Dr. Kate,
I’m almost 30 and recently experienced my first orgasm with external stimulation (a vibrator). By that, I mean I had never had one with another person or by masturbating. However, since my pre-teen years, I’ve been able to make myself orgasm when I have to pee. It goes like this: I need to pee, I think a few sexy thoughts, I squeeze my thighs together, and there it goes.
Unless I have to pee really badly, I can usually get a few in before I really need to go to the bathroom. Also, I’ve tried to have a Lady Gaga-style mental orgasm without needing to pee and it doesn’t work — I can only do it when I have to pee. I didn’t actually think it was an orgasm until I had a “real” one. Admittedly, these are different –they’re not as powerful, there’s not the same intense buildup, etc. — but it’s definitely an orgasm. What’s the medical explanation here? Is it dangerous? Can other people do this or do I have some kind of superpower!?
— Orgasm Girl
Well, I think you’re Wonder Woman, even without the wrist cuffs and spandex! Most women think that stimulation of the clitoris is the only way to get aroused. But the clitoris is actually just the tip of your sexual iceberg. The thousands of nerves that lead to arousal start at the surface of your body but travel back into your body for almost a foot. Since your pelvis is so sexually wired, various different positions and activities can cause you to become aroused and even orgasm.
In your case, it’s the combination of a full bladder and thigh muscle contraction. So there’s nothing wrong with your body, and it’s certainly not dangerous. And like most superheroes, those with special abilities tend to keep them hidden — meaning, we really don’t know how common this ability is. So just enjoy it.
— Dr. Kate
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.