Your Call: Can She Keep Her Boobs Covered Up During Sex?

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We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.

I hate my boobs. I’m really self-conscious about them. So I really like keeping a bra on during sex. How much of a bummer is that for guys? And do you think it’s at all possible to find a guy who’d be okay with me keeping that part of my bod covered up during sex a majority of the time?

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13 Comments on "Your Call: Can She Keep Her Boobs Covered Up During Sex?"


phip
1 year 5 months ago

Men like boobs of all shapes and sizes etc, it is just a fact. Hopefully you were careful and pick a man who cares, and when he looks into your eyes, he sees your insecurity and loves you for caring what he feels about you, and then when you look into his eyes, you love him for caring about you the person and not the acces ories you happen to own through life. No matter how you look, ultimately it will be your soul and personality that will forever obsess a partner. Love yourself and others will too.

kyle
2 years 1 month ago

Compliments should have never been called “sexual” socalled pestering.

Jessica
2 years 7 months ago

My sexy husband knows that whenever he buys me some of Anita’s and Kutchie’s delicious key lime pie that I will do any sexual favors that he is in the mood for that night. He knows that the key lime pies really turn me on to no end. They really get my juices flowing and I am just puttee in his arms. I love him so very much, he is my everything, he is my life. We do sexual things that would make a sailor blush. So wonderful that I can not tell you them here. Letting my Boobs bounce around while my is making sweet love with me I consider that to be the least of what gets to hang-out in our bedroom.

“AH”, the Magic of Anita and Kutchie Pelaez’s Key Lime Pies! Rated XXX…..For Married Couples 21 years or older.

Who needs a Bra here? Give me a brake!

Kev
3 years 5 months ago

Keeping a piece or two of clothing on can increase the sensations and should not be seen as a barrier to intimacy. It depends on the mood. We all enjoy bodice ripping sex but sometimes keeping a little bit hidden for a while can give a bit of time to get comfortable, and then increase the arousal and the pleasure once the underwear comes off.

For example, touching and feeling the breasts through the lace and satin of a bra can feel good and send signals of pleasure through the body, and an attractive bra is a sight to behold when laid down with your girl on top. A guy going up to tease his girls breasts by nibbling, licking and pulling at the material of the bra, and kissing the bare skin that the garment shoews off, while rubbing his partners shoulders and back should create an erotic sensation. Making love with the woman on top, with her in her bra to start but with it being pushed down as her guy explores her boobs and pleasures her clitoris can be arousing.

Similarly kissing and licking your guys chest and tummy, working down to his boxers before nibbling and pulling at the waistband can be a turn on, specially if you decide to take things a bit further…getting a guys penis pushing for freedom through his boxer shorts before removing them can create a sexy sight for his partner, and why should she pull them down when she can rip them open from the front, which can be a good prelude to a blowjob….

Kat
3 years 7 months ago

I was self conscious about my breasts for sometime as I had an open-heart surgery when I was young which also means I have a scar.

However, why should we get in the way of our own enjoyable experience?

Guys are more impressed with the way you commit to the deed which leaves them wanting more.

I have never been turned down once because of my scar or not wanted to pleasure my breasts and early on, I had decided should I come across an idiot like that, he will go in the scrap pile, not knowing what he has missed.

If you keep a piece of clothing on during this intimate time, you are creating a barrier which a guy might read differently to you wanting to cover them up because you don’t like them. Doing it sometimes is sexy but not all the time.

I recommend that you masturbate and explore yourself. Get comfortable with yourself and learn to relax. Watch Em & Lo’s Sex: How to Do Everything show because that truly liberated me as well as teaching me different things about the sexual experience. I particularly liked that couple who were roving reporters.

Learn to love yourself and then learn to be a great lover.

The media portrays too many plastic women with plastic boobs, bums and everything but this isn’t real. I’d much rather have my real boobs with all the nerve endings in tact. By the way, I never held much hope they would grow because of my operation but I didn’t feel bad, it’s something I just expected. But around the age of 21, they started growing. Gradually from an A cup, 3 years later , they are a D. I found out pleasuring them can contribute to this.

There is more to life than having the perfect body. Being open, being loving both to yourself and others is key.

Just feel lucky that you even have a body and you are alive to be able to experience these pleasures. Let go and enjoy.