Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I had the weirdest dream and can’t for the life of me figure out what it means. Me and my boyfriend broke up recently because of trust issues that I have and that’s been on my mind a lot lately, so I am guessing it has something to do with that. A couple days before I had this dream we decided that we would try to work things out, but we would take things a bit slower this time.
In my dream I am a man, which seemed kind of weird to me. It is me and another man who I seem to know very well, and two girls. In the beginning we are receiving blowjobs from the girls, but lose our erections in the middle of it. We seem very confused and try to get it back up but can’t. Then all of a sudden a giant light bulb appears in the sky but is not lit up. I tell the other guy to look and then the light bulb starts to turn like it’s being screwed in and lights up. Me and the other guy both go, “Oh yeah‚Ä¶ duh!” and almost magically and instantly our erection comes back. Then we have intercourse with the girls. I would appreciate any explanation you have to offer.
Lauri: We do tend to dream about what is on our mind the most, so I’m sure you are correct in assuming this dream is connected to your recent breakup/reconciliation. Let’s see if we can figure out the message. Since you’re a man in the dream, I wonder if you are playing the dominant role in the reconciliation. The two girls, the two guys, and you being a man when you’re actually a woman — I believe all of this reflects how divided you are regarding the relationship. Having an erection and then losing it also seems to reflect how divided you are: You probably try to “stand firm” in your trust but then you lose it and cave to the distrust. And, like a blowjob, that really “sucks.”
I think the main message of the dream comes in the form of the light bulb. As we all know, light bulbs in the air are all about having a sudden bright idea or realization. You get your realization, and your erection back, when you see the light bulb get screwed in. That is likely telling you that you need to change your outlook. If you stop seeing yourself as a victim, as someone that’s been “screwed over” just as the bulb was screwed in over you, then your trust issues will no longer weaken your relationships. You can then proceed to have satisfying relationships in life just as you proceeded to then have intercourse in the dream.
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