Comments of the week don’t necessarily reflect our personal opinions — sometimes it’s simply a thoughtful response that we think merits further discussion. This week, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Is Sex on a First Date a Relationship Killer?”¬†reader William says this:
Why would you want to have sex on the first date if you are looking for a LTR? ¬†If you want sex; own up to it and don‚Äôt say you are looking for a LTR. The message it sends is totally wrong for a LTR. ¬†Would you not wonder if the other party is having sex on other first dates that they go on? ¬†There is no way to know how much you are really going to like a person until you have had a chance to spend some time with them and learn about them.
I personally think for a relationship to work you need to find out if they share your core values. ¬†Ultimately do they want to get married? Do they like kids and want kids? ¬†If you are going to be a couple, will they give up their personal privacy if that is what you want?
New acquaintances can seem very intriguing but that feeling can also fade very quickly once you start learning more about a person. ¬†If you are TRULY looking for LTR … don‚Äôt rush to have sex … as the feelings sex will generate will most likely convolute how you truly like the person ¬†… ¬†and you will be left feeling hurt when ultimately the relationship does not work out.