Dear Dr. Kate,
What does it feel like when a man’s penis hits the cervix during intercourse? I think it’s happened to me, but it doesn’t happen every time my partner and I have intercourse with deeper penetration. Can it hurt the cervix? How can this be avoided during sex while still allowing for deep penetration?
– Perplexed Cervix
Deep penetration during intercourse can be immensely satisfying, and make you feel really connected to your partnerâ€¦.but sometimes has the less-satisfying effect of causing you pain. When the cervix is bumped, it can cause cramping in your uterus that ranges from mild to severe, or cause a dull aching or pressure-like feeling throughout your pelvis. Some women are more prone to cervical contact, if their uterus is tipped back towards their tailbone (or â€śretrovertedâ€ť), bringing the cervix up and closer to the vaginal opening. The good news is that while cervical contact may hurt, it doesnâ€™t hurt your cervix â€“ no damage done. The best way to avoid it is to be maximally aroused before penetration â€“ when the vagina is fully engorged, it gets longer and wider, and gives the penis more room to play, hopefully away from your cervix. Extra lubricant couldnâ€™t hurt, as well.
– Dr. Kate
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on womenâ€™s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She generously shares her medical wisdom withÂ EM & LO readers every few weeks. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.