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Dear Dr. Kate: Can the Cervix Get Hurt During Intercourse?

Thu, Jan 26, 2012

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Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions every few weeks on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here.

Dear Dr. Kate,

What does it feel like when a man’s penis hits the cervix during intercourse? I think it’s happened to me, but it doesn’t happen every time my partner and I have intercourse with deeper penetration. Can it hurt the cervix? How can this be avoided during sex while still allowing for deep penetration?

– Perplexed Cervix

Dear P.C.,

Deep penetration during intercourse can be immensely satisfying, and make you feel really connected to your partner….but sometimes has the less-satisfying effect of causing you pain. When the cervix is bumped, it can cause cramping in your uterus that ranges from mild to severe, or cause a dull aching or pressure-like feeling throughout your pelvis. Some women are more prone to cervical contact, if their uterus is tipped back towards their tailbone (or “retroverted”), bringing the cervix up and closer to the vaginal opening. The good news is that while cervical contact may hurt, it doesn’t hurt your cervix – no damage done. The best way to avoid it is to be maximally aroused before penetration – when the vagina is fully engorged, it gets longer and wider, and gives the penis more room to play, hopefully away from your cervix. Extra lubricant couldn’t hurt, as well.

– Dr. Kate

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She generously shares her medical wisdom with EM & LO readers every few weeks. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.

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16 Responses to “Dear Dr. Kate: Can the Cervix Get Hurt During Intercourse?”

  1. Michele Lisenbury Christensen Says:

    The length of your vaginal canal (and therefore the proximity of your cervix to the entroitus) will vary at different times of month, too, so that may have something to do with “sometimes he hits it, sometimes he doesn’t.”

  2. angie Says:

    what about hitting the cervix and causing bleeding? I bleed/ heavy spot for a day or two after intercourse and I know he’s hitting my cervix. Also, it seems that the last time we had intercourse has caused me to actually start my period early. Is this possible?
    Please help.

  3. Tash Says:

    I have rough sex with my partner occasionally and I have noticed that depending on the position we are in I bleed during or after sex. This spotting after sex last for a day or two but it is light and only detectable when I wipe. I have done my annual papsmears and they show no abnormality. I don’t know what is wrong because we use have rougher sex than we do now And i didn’t use to bleed. But for a fact the bleed is evident when my boyfriend goes deep and I do feel like he’s hitting something but it feels good not hurtful. Also, we have been trying to get pregnant but unsuccessful so far, is there anyway that something could be wrong with me. How can I find out if there is? I am 28.

  4. Omoyeni Says:

    I had my period about 2 weeks ago and it lasted 4days, I had sex with my partner after my period and nothing happened… But some days ago we had rough sex I felt like he hit my cervix and after that I have been noticing light bleeding and discharge from my vagina for 3days now. it’s getting me worried. I know it’s not STD because I have only one partner and he’s not infected.

  5. simon Says:

    Love this website it educates the nation

  6. Marie Says:

    i had sex with my partner today and he was hitting my cervix once or twice and it was reay painful(i was riding ontop,it is the first time this ever happens to me and we’ve done it several times and never happend till today.im nervous to do it again because im scared the pain will come back(Please reply) what should i do? because im not pregnant and im only 18 years of age

  7. lea Says:

    I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday.. I was on all fours and he came from behind.. I noticed a sharp pain on one of his thrusts making me scream and jump out of position in discomfort.. After a few seconds, I noticed increased wetness in my vagina like when extremely aroused and am scared that my uterus might have been bruised or something…

  8. Amaka Says:

    I also notice a dull pressure kind of pain when having sex. Also I recently had a yeast infection and whenever I’m trying to use the applicator I feel the same pain. I usually have to push the applicator on one side of my vagina while sliding it in so I can get it in without pain, otherwise it feels like the I’m pushing up air which is pushing on my cervix. I can never get the applicator fully in and then I feel pain, beyond which I can’t go any further. I’m so scared cuz I don’t even know if this is my cervix or if there’s something in the way. This happens every single time, no exception. Please it has me really worried, and I can’t afford to go see a gyno. That’s really expensive here and I don’t work. Please help. Thanks

  9. Maggie Alvarez Says:

    I knew i was goin to start my period so we had sex because we usually have sex everyday, but we used toys for the firat time n it was a 7 inch n i love it deep thays why we tryed a toy. But when it went in deep it felt like another opening. It was wiered, so i started period next day, but lots of back pains n side pains, i take provera to start period witch it normally doeant give me that bad of pain. I am very scared. I dont kno of i need to be checked or is it jus my period that is goving me bad cramps. Sex was awesome so o didnt think anything till i started getting bad pains.

  10. Vivian Says:

    my menstruation lasted for seven days and on the last day i had sex with my partner with me on top and in the process i started bleeding immediately. I felt embarrassed and wonder what must have gone wrong please reply.

  11. Busisiwe Says:

    My boyfriend has a big penis, i enjoy having sex wit him but most of the time it hurts and i will go straight to my period the day after we had sex, im worried that maybe my cervix will be damage or something else might be affected.

  12. Chloe Says:

    I’m 19 years old and after a very passionate weekend with my boyfriend I’ve been bleeding lightly, no pain just slight bleeding. We had sex roughly 5 times over the weekend each time lasting for almost an hour, I know he hit my cervix because of how deep he went. So is this normal? Just a little bit of cervical damage from rougher long sex?

  13. brya Says:

    A few weeks ago I had sex with my bc and he mentioned he could feelhimself hitting. Something and then I noticed it too, I thought nothing of it but 8/10 times we have sex now I bleed during and it gives me an uncomfortable pressure feeling. In my lower abdomen. I don’t really bleed unless we have sex tho and if I do its very very little and I only notice it when I wipe, but when we have sex it literally looks like I had my period on him.. I feel bad for him in that case but I’m kinda worried maybe something tore

  14. Britney Says:

    My boyfriend and I have been having sex from about two years now and recently the last two times when we had sex I bled a little and again today … should I be worried ? Also he tried something new which is apparently called pussy slapping it was a little painful do you think that could b the cause and we tried it the last two times when I bleed as well

  15. haley Says:

    My boyfriend and I have been sexual partners for about five months now. He’s bigger than average (maybe 8) and I’m a very small girl, I’d say at maximum arousal my vagina reaches 7 inches. We have very rough sex a lot of the time and for the past five months (besides the first few times) there has been no blood or spotting during or after intercourse. He hits my cervix repeatedly every time we have sex but I’ve learned to get used to it over time and though it still hurts it’s usually not very bad.
    Two days ago him and I were having sex – I was laying on my stomach and he was on top of me thrusting from behind. I was aroused and he was hitting the cervix as he normally does but at some point I was literally screaming because of the pain. We kept on having sex until we both came to climax, and to my horror I saw him wiping blood off his penis. I looked down at myself and saw my inner thighs and ass were covered in light colored blood and he handed me the towel to clean myself.
    Afterwards I was unable to sit up for maybe thirty minutes and just laid down with him for awhile before deciding that I had to go pee. I walked to the bathroom and saw I was still bleeding. The bleeding lasted for about an hour after the sex and it wasn’t period blood – it was actual blood, a lighter color than my normal period’s.
    Anyways, it’s still hurting slightly. We’ve had sex three times since then (none today, twice yesterday) and both times were more painful than usual but without blood though he did hit the cervix, the second time I couldn’t even let him reach climax because it started hurting so bad.
    I’m worried about the random bleeding – wasn’t anywhere near my period and it wasn’t my birth control because my body is very used to it. Help? How can I make sure that I have a tear without seeing a GYN and would it be possible to mend it? Thank you.

  16. Deja Says:

    Dear Kate,

    I am 20 years old and have been having sex with the same male for about 2 years now. Last night while having sex I could feel my uterus moving up and down in rhythm with his movement. Like I put my hand there and it could be felt moving. There was no pain it just felt weird. I am no pregnant nor have I be diagnosed with a tilted uterus. Is this movement normal or should I be worried.

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