Figleaf does it again this week, dropping his wise words on the topic of sexual fantasies. This was in response to a post titled, “Question of the Week: Do You Fantasize About Other People During Sex?”
Pretty much ever since I first heard an â€śexpertâ€ť mention sexual fantasies, Iâ€™ve heard that itâ€™s not only common but â€śperfectly naturalâ€ť to fantasize about someone else during sex.Â I never have.
Actually, technically thatâ€™s not true. At one point I deliberately tried to, but it didnâ€™t work and wasnâ€™t very interesting anyway.Â And who knows, maybe itâ€™s just that I do fantasize about sex with other people often enough to get it out of my system or something. Butâ€¦ sex with the person Iâ€™m with has always been interesting enough for me.
I dunno. When Iâ€™m at the beach I donâ€™t fantasize about going skiing. When Iâ€™m eating I donâ€™t fantasize about drinking tea. When Iâ€™m reading Em & Lo I donâ€™t fantasize about reading Dan Savage. Call me short-sighted or uncreative but itâ€™s the same thing with sex.
Finally, I wouldnâ€™t mind if a partner fantasized about someone else while she was having sex with me. Itâ€™s not like itâ€™s a value judgment. Just because Iâ€™m not wired for it, doesnâ€™t mean nobody else should be either.