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How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate

Tue, Aug 7, 2012

Advice, How To

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Okay, before we tell you how to ejaculate, we have to set a couple things straight:

First, yes, women can ejaculate.

Next: no, not all women ejaculate. So if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly. The last thing we mean to do is set up an unrealistic sexpectation. And gents, please don’t make it your “mission” to turn your gal into a geyser. It’s okay to give it the ol’ college try, but know when to give up.

Some women squirt across the bed, others barely trickle, still others find G-spot stimulation so painful or annoying that they never get far enough to find out, and many may not have the kind of equipment that would allow them to ejaculate at all. And that’s okay. But seeing as we’re always being asked how to make it happen, we thought we’d at least tell you how to try.

So, without further ado, you’ll find our top ten tips for nurturing your inner female ejaculator, after the jump.


1. Go for the G. Most women who ejaculate say it happens as a result of direct, firm, prolonged G-spot stimulation. Remember, while all women have a G-spot, not all women enjoy having theirs stimulated. If you’re one of those women, we recommend you give up now and try learning a new position or something instead. If you’re not, locate your G-spot on the upper, or front wall of your vagina, about two inches in. Curve your finger in a “come hither” gesture, toward the belly button.

2. Fly solo first. There’s less pressure and you can take as long as you want without worrying that you’re boring anyone. Not that this is boring, of course.

3. Use a tool. Once your partner’s involved, they might want to try a toy specifically designed for the G-spot, like the G-Swirl from GoodVibes or Lelo’s Mona. But really, any toy with that “come hither” hook is good–because most G-spots respond well to firm, steady, prolonged stimulation. And not all fingers can provide that.

4. Let it go. You’re going to feel like you’ve got to pee, but don’t worry about wetting the bed–if you’ve gone to the bathroom beforehand, there shouldn’t be a problem. But even if there is a little pee, is it really a problem? We’re all grownups here.

5. Bear down. Take “letting go” a step further by actually pushing out when you feel the urge to pee, like you’re in a pee-off and you’re about to take the lead.

6. Don’t block the exit. A large toy, a penis or a hand might cut off the urethral opening (and that’s where female ejaculate comes out — though as we’ve said before, it’s not actually pee). Keep up the stimulation, just get them out of the way as best you can.

7. Get hot and bothered. Being super sexed-up, overcome with lust, and engulfed in the flames of desire means a number of things: a) Your G-spot is easier to find and can take more pressure, which means more experimental poking. b) Your pelvic muscles are more relaxed, which makes it easier to let go. c) You’re more likely to have an orgasm, causing pelvic contractions which help expel the fluid. d) You’re super sexed-up, overcome with lust, and engulfed in the flames of desire!

8. Have an orgasm first. Ejaculating might be easier after your groin has already been warmed up and relaxed by an explosive O.

9. Make clean-up a cinch. Put down towels or a waterproof pad (you’ll find them in the incontinence aisle at the pharmacy) or a fitted vinyl or PVC sheet (available at most sex shops) so you’re not stressed about wetting the bed. Or do it in the bathtub; if you actually run a bath, the warm water will also help you relax.

10. Drink water. When you’re dehydrated, your body gets retentive with all its fluids, including female ejaculate. Just make sure you pee before you attempt any of the above in order to avoid having an accident.

Some of the above can be found in our book The Big Bang or “SEX: How to Do Everything”

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16 Responses to “How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate”

  1. figleaf Says:

    “…if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly.”

    And

    “[G]ents, please don’t make it your ‘mission’ to turn your gal into a geyser.”

    Great post overall, and even better reminders!

    Despite the fact that we get waaay too much “sex education” from porn, sex is not in fact a performance art.

    And no, orgasms aren’t necessarily “better” for those who can squirt vs. those who don’t.

    The original message from Beverly Whipple and her colleagues in the original The G-Spot, which first popularized the idea of female ejaculation was that different women can have different kinds of orgasms.

    In the introduction they mention that until roughly the late 1960s women were castigated for having clitoral orgasms. Then (basically after Masters and Johnson) they were castigated for having vaginal ones. The author’s intention was to point out that, literally, there can be different strokes for different folks. Not that someone who can come this way is superior to someone who comes the other way. (Or even that someone who comes at all is superior to someone who can’t!)

    I mention this in part, and I appreciate your reminder so much, because a lot of guys latched on to the idea that if they could “make” their partner ejaculate it would be proof that they were having orgasms and not just faking them. And while there’s much to be said about the male anxiety and desire to please their partners there’s also even more to be said about how… that’s… um… ejaculation isn’t a good metric of orgasms, and orgasms aren’t even the best metric for one’s partner’s enjoyment of sex. (As I’ve said elsewhere, if orgasms were the only point we’d all just stay home and have them on our own.)

    Finally, great advice about how to actually go about it if you (and your partner they agree to go along with you, ahem!!!) choose to give it a try.

    figleaf

  2. smiley Says:

    I squirt occasionally, but not as a result of g spot stimulation.
    It took practice, but the result is worth it. There’s more than 1 way t skin a cat. Listen to your body.

  3. Anonymous Says:

    I think that squirting can be fun and exciting. It is not always a sure thing though. I think with training, listening to one’s body, experimentation with g-spot and clitoral stimulation, and practiced emotional awareness, ejaculation can very well just happen.:):) It can be everything from just some oozing, to lots of wetness, to squirting: And even maybe gushing! Now as a side note… In case anyone is interested there is a rather new book that is called: “THE MASSEUR” by author John M. Martin that has two rather exciting and descriptive, steamy scenes, with a Lady named Susie, who ejaculates all over the masseur’s face and neck. In this book, the masseur does practice a technique on to help Suzie squirt. If you like a good story, but also some tips and ideas on squirting, or having your partner help you squirt, this may be a must read. There are 11 pages free preview of the book at: LuLu . c o m :) :)

  4. Ilona Says:

    I am 47 years old. I had my first female ejaulation when I was 17. I married him. It was so suprising and exciting. I have learned over the years that the mental sexual state is very important. The more turned on I am the more intence the orgazim is. I start slow,and then it is so intence that I cant control it. I start splashing and squirting with such intencity that it has hit the wall.I am multi orgazmic and 4 hours, 27 ogazam later. dont give up. Splash

  5. Ilona Says:

    Men…. Never GET UP from a very sexual experiance with fluids, and run and take a shower. This will make us (weomen) feel horrible about our fluid bodily experiance and we will never do this for you again. Drink in the true human moment. Tell Her you love it.

  6. Squirt Lover Says:

    I absolutely love it when my girlfriend squirts… She’d never done it before she met me and was quite surprise herself as she didn’t even know that she’d done it… Like I say, I absolutely love it, especially as it is clearly synchronised with such a strong and intense orgasm for her.
    I like to drink it, spread it all on her body, or let it spray all over me. Mmmm. Just perfect! Thanks you god for this wonderful miracle.

  7. squirter lady Says:

    Just want to knw does the consistancy change depending on wk of your menstrual cycle cos,a couple of nights bk i squirted and it was very accidic and stung me a bit.

  8. brown Says:

    ialways try to satisfy ma gal, but she never tells me her feeling’. how can i know whether she is satisfied or not by gesture?

  9. emz Says:

    After learning the art of ejaculating. .. indeed by giving upany inhibitions and mental awareness I can squirt from clitoral or gspot stimulation over and over…. pushing does help but be careful the pressure can make u fart if it’s a strong orgasm but from practice and great sex I can ejaculate every 20seconds or so when being goven head and at least 5times during penetrative sex. Its great… just soaks the bed.. and my fella ;)

  10. Scotty's Squirter Says:

    I love This Suirting stuff!!! I’ve only done this with My boyfriend Scotty about 5 different times since September and I was watching some videos last night on these girls who OMG completely shoot like a whale!!!! I saw they were having intercouse then coming off the penis and rubbing there clit vigorously. And bam Squirt Squirt!!! Soooo I tried that tonight and Wow!!! Unbelievable. I am so intrigued on becoming an expert Squirter!!! If anyone has any tricks or techniques that may be helpful for me.. Please let me know!!!! I would love any reading material and if you know of any toys to use (and what kind) .. This is my new mission in Exploring my sexual ability with the love of my life!!!!! It’s the most amazing trance I have even been put into !!! It’s a pure state of ecstasy!!! Better than any Drug.. Because its Natural!!! I’m addicted now. Haha. Pure bliss!! I recommend Anyone curious to at least let go and experience this. Ahhhhh. Words just can not describe this feeling. I hope to become a pro and be able to to this on demand like some … Again please If anyone has any advice. Keep me posted!!!! Happy Squirting!!!
    ~Natalie
    Aka “Scotty’s Squirter”

  11. simone Says:

    I have been married for 20 years I am 39 years old, and it wasnt until last year that I had my first ejaculation, I honestly though I had wet my self.My husband was so very impressed and keen to see it again that he has been able to make it happen time and time again. I always know when he is in the mood as he has covered the bed with towels in anticipation. I highly recommend it if you are able.

  12. Tasha Says:

    Just an FYI my hubby and I just discovered that I am a woman who can squirt!! Great experience but we have found the easiest and most faithfully way of producing this is simply to apply my vibrater directly to my clit you’ll have to find the right spot on u but when your there you’ll know. Also pee first! The first time we decided it would b more comfortable f I tried by myself that way I could relax and feel how my body reacted without having him watching! Have fun and explore your body ladies how will he ever know what u like f u don’t

  13. Mary Says:

    Best time ever would like to do it again once was not enough. I need to know does it take practice. Omg what can I use how long does it take and why did it take so long to figure this out. It’s the best

  14. Ann Says:

    I actually think I can squirt simply because i litterly drip like crazy every time I’m penetrated. Im kinda feel like its left in there and just wanna squirt it out! Also, I get extremely wet and according to my ex, theres no friction. Is he just being a dick or guys don’t like when girls get extremely wet?

  15. cbaby Says:

    Me and my boyfriend tried stimulating my g spot last night. He was very patient and understanding. We read a little bit about what to look for and expect. After 30 min of him doung the “come hither” motion it didn’t work. However I went to the bathroom after intercourse and I was still aroused. I felt for my g spot myself and it was a totally different texture than I had ever felt because it was being stimulated. Once I located my g spot, I squatted down in the bathtub and put firm pressure on it. It felt like I had to pee really bad (I made sure I peed before sex) I remembered how an article said to let it just come out. And it did! It wasn’t pee at all! My pee was yellow before I used the bathroom and the substance that came out was clear. It kinda just trickled down my legs. I squirted for the first time last night! It’s so exciting. We are practicing again. Im more hopeful this time because I now know what to expect and how my body feels before it happens.

  16. carlito Says:

    Ann, there is a too wet for me and a lot of guys don’t like it but some do, had a girlfriend once who would get so wet that when I hit the back end of her it would just slide and also it got so wet that it made me get soft some like being in a tub of water, I think that’s the real reason why guys don’t like it, makes them softer. Hope this helps you.


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