Three years ago, inspired by an article in the New York Times Magazine, we wrote a post about how we found the First Marriage both inspiringÂ and a little chastening â letâs see you be President or First Lady and still rock hot monogamy like that. The marriage is also a little terrifying â how would we ever recover from an Obama divorce? Weâd lose faith in the very institution of marriage! Three years on, despite being occasionally a little disappointed in Obama, we continue to be wowed by the First Marriage. Here’s a reminder of why. Please, Mr. and Mrs. Obama, hang in there, for us.
1. They donât think itâs dorky to arrange date nights. (Since when did it become uncool to use the term âdate night,â anyway? Weâre standing by it proudly.) Speaking of date nights, he once upgraded dinner-and-a-movie to dinner-and-a-Broadway-show, which would be torture for most straight guys we know. And yes, we know that he had to skip their wedding anniversary for a Presidential Debate, but that’s not exactly deadbeat husband material (see #10 below) — and we’d bet on the fact that he rocked it the next night.
2. When they dance they still look as in love as if it were the first dance at their wedding â except that itâs newly-wed bliss mixed with the kind of wise, knowing, deep love that you get â if youâre truly lucky â after seventeen years of marriage and two kids.
3. Which is not to say that theyâre above a little buddy-buddy fist-bumping.
4. They work out together and took up tennis together after moving into the White House. âHe wins,â she said. âFor now,â he added. Which weâre convinced improves their sex life. Whatever it is, you can tell theyâre still hot for each other.
5. Also, they play Scrabble together.
6. During the the Group of 20 Summit in Pittsburgh, according to the Times article, âas they waited to greet a long, slow procession of foreign dignitaries and their spouses …Â the first lady whispered in her husbandâs ear about things âthat I probably shouldnât repeat,â he said.â Oh man, we so badly want to believe that was dirty talk! You know what? Weâre just going to pretend it was.
7. Theyâre not afraid of a little PDA. Apparently friends visiting the White House will often turn a corner to find them mid-embrace. And theyâre always kissing, touching, and flirting and public. Fortunately, theirs is not the kind of PDA that gives you the awkward heebie-jeebies (yes, weâre talking to you, the former Mr. & Mrs Gore).
8. They donât try to act like their marriage is perfect â they openly admit to going through really tough times. The image of a flawless relationship is âthe last thing that we want to project,â the first lady says. âItâs unfair to the institution of marriage, and itâs unfair for young people who are trying to build something, to project this perfection that doesnât exist.â Someone give this woman an advice column!
9. They fell in love not just because theyâre both smart and funny and ridiculously good-looking but because they get equally worked up about social injustice.
10.Â Finally, they understand that equality in a relationship doesnât have to be calibrated on a second-by-second basis when youâre in it for the long haul together â equality might be measured over a period of years or even decades. Meaning, he may be President of the U.S.A. right now (there’s that Presidential Debate on their anniversary again!) but that title is neither permanent nor applicable at the breakfast table (or, we have a feeling, in the bedroom). Swoon.
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