Comment of the Week: If He’s Being Secretive, He’s a Spy or a Player by Em & Lo | 1 Chime in! Reader Jenna said the following in response to the post “Your Call: How Can She Tell If a Guy Is Playing Games?” Men who are serious about relationships usually have a certain amount of transparency. They let you meet friends or family without it being a big production. They share details of their day or their nights out. They call/ text when they say they will and return your calls in a reasonable amount of time. If a man is veiled in secrecy, it’s probably because he is playing games. Or, a spy. But I’d put my money on the former. The main thing I would suggest is to listen to your gut. If you feel like he is playing you, he probably is. You should just be straightforward and ask. Also, actions speak louder than words, so judge him by his behavior, not just what he tells you. More from EMandLO.com: The 7 Rules of Dating a Co-Worker My Boyfriend Can’t Handle My Sexual Past Can Open Relationships Cure Jealousy? Comments,Commitment Issues,Communication,Dating,Monogamy SHARE THIS | 1 Chime in!