Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst¬†Lauri Loewenberg¬†tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze?¬†Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
Last night, in my dream, I¬†was about 7 months pregnant (I really want a baby but my partner doesn’t want one yet). I was at work when the dream started (I don’t work). I got home and my partner’s sister was over (she doesnt like me). She started yelling at me for some reason. My partner was watching my daughter and his son and his ex was over dropping their son off like she does every second weekend. He hugged me and told me he loved me again — he’d been telling me that all day while I was at work. I went out back with the kids so I could have a smoke. When I came back inside to go to the bathroom, I found my partner in bed with his ex and her best friend. He was telling me he hates me and never wanted to be with me, he only wanted his ex. So I walked up to all three of them, smack them, and then throw them out.
What does this/could this mean? I’m really insecure at the moment. I feel really down about myself and I have been on antidepressans for 10 weeks now. I’m so scared my partner is cheating now. Please help.
Lauri:¬†Dreaming that your partner is cheating does not mean he is, especially if you have no other reason to suspect him. If this dream meant it was true, then there would not be a single faithful person alive, because we all get this dream from time to time.What it does mean is that there is something that has come between you and your partner, so let’s see if we can figure out what it is.
In the dream you are 7 months pregnant. That’s a specific amount, which means it is connected to something in waking life that has been going on for 7 months. Have you been wanting a baby for 7 months? Have you been with your partner for 7 months? Or living with him for 7 months? Think about this and see if you can make the connection.
In the dream you are also working, even though you don’t in real life. This means this dream is about something in your life that you have been working on, like your relationship or your depression. Ask yourself what seems to take the most work and odds are, that’s what this dream is about.
Your partner’s sister yells at you. Whenever someone is mad at us in a dream, it is usually because we are mad at ourselves in real life. What are you mad at yourself for lately? Whatever it is, it seems you do want to cleanse yourself of this anger because in the dream you decide to shower. But instead that is when you find your partner in the midst of a threesome with his ex and her friend! This could be a real big clue. Are you jealous that he had a kid with her but doesn’t want one with you? Or are you bothered by their relationship in any way? Do you feel he is closer to her than you would like? Perhaps you are mad at yourself for insecurities that are unwarranted.
You throw these people out in your dream, which is really the way your inner mind is telling you that you need to throw these insecurities out of your psyche, you need to cleanse yourself of all this mess. I think this dream is an ugly manifestation of the insecurities and depression you are battling and perhaps THAT is the third wheel in this relationship, THAT is what is coming in between you and your partner. Remember, things are NEVER as bad as we make them out to be in our heads.
You’ll recall the beginning of the dream when your partner was telling you how much he loved you: well, he must because he has chosen to live with you. Get your confidence back woman! Men and future employers can’t resist confidence!
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