Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend, who lives with me, and I had the same dream last night. He killed me, but was possessed while doing so. I’m sure the details in his dream were different than mine, but it was the same content.

My dream was one I’d had before. In my dream, another man tries to save me from my current boyfriend, but is unsuccessful and my boyfriend stabs me. The dream was very dark and dreary and also involved a train and a train station and skips to a party scene on the train.

In his dream he was possessed and stabbed me like 20 times and after the fact that I was dead he realized what he did and started balling and hugged my dead body until the police came.

The fact that we both dreamt the same thing on the same night is rather scary. Any thoughts?

Lauri: Yes, two people can have the same dream on the same night. It’s called shared dreaming and it usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter, etc. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams.

Now, let’s decipher these dreams and see if we can pinpoint the shared issue. Being stabbed in a dream often means you have been the victim of someone’s hurtful and wounding remarks. Do you recall if you and your boyfriend fought that day? Did he take a lot of “stabs” at you by criticizing you?

The fact that you’ve had this dream more than once concerns me that he may have an anger problem. Just as he was possessed in the dream, does it sometimes seem like some angry person had taken over his body? Is he sometimes not himself?

The murder aspect of these dreams suggests he may be trying to force some sort of change on you. Death in a dream is a natural change or ending in waking life whereas murder in a dream is a forced change or ending. The unknown man that was trying to rescue you in the dream is most likely your own male, assertive self. Do you recall trying to “grow a pair” and stand up for yourself that day… to no avail?

His remorse in the dream shows he’s truly sorry in waking life. Nonetheless, if there are changes he is trying to get you to make, you may wanna tell him to lighten up a bit about it because it’s giving you nightmares!


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7 Comments on "Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream"

13 hours 17 minutes ago

I was at home last night and my bf was at his aunts house. We both had dreams about zombies. I was in a city that I have never been to but in the dream it felt familiar, and was trying to get away from the Zombies. They were fat and alien like. I was beating them with a shovel and then suddenly I was in a really high elevator that was going up really fast and it lead me to a hospital like place with a little girl in a room. She was coughing up blood and was sick. Then she changed into a zombie in front of me. My boyfriend on the other hand had a dream that he was in the forest or someplace swampy, he also was trying to get away but said that he had a different partner with him. Could it be possible that we are both trying to escape our pasts in reality?

29 days 8 hours ago

I remember that me and my mom had the same dream. The dream itself had no sense but the content was the same despite the fact it was with no sense. We dreamt that our parrot had problems with flying and it fell down behind the sove in our house.

2 months 24 days ago

Me and my sons’ mother had the same dream about our son almost drowning in a pool. We don’t live together but in happen the same night. Should I be worried or does this mean something totally different. thanks for your gift. mike

8 months 27 days ago

I and my friend dreamt dat we were shopping perfumes at a particular shop same shop same nite n we both bought three perfume each in our separate dreams wat does it mean

1 year 18 days ago

we had the same dream that he was in jail..