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Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream

Thu, Feb 28, 2013

Advice, Dream Interpretation

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend, who lives with me, and I had the same dream last night. He killed me, but was possessed while doing so. I’m sure the details in his dream were different than mine, but it was the same content.

My dream was one I’d had before. In my dream, another man tries to save me from my current boyfriend, but is unsuccessful and my boyfriend stabs me. The dream was very dark and dreary and also involved a train and a train station and skips to a party scene on the train.

In his dream he was possessed and stabbed me like 20 times and after the fact that I was dead he realized what he did and started balling and hugged my dead body until the police came.

The fact that we both dreamt the same thing on the same night is rather scary. Any thoughts?

Lauri: Yes, two people can have the same dream on the same night. It’s called shared dreaming and it usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter, etc. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams.

Now, let’s decipher these dreams and see if we can pinpoint the shared issue. Being stabbed in a dream often means you have been the victim of someone’s hurtful and wounding remarks. Do you recall if you and your boyfriend fought that day? Did he take a lot of “stabs” at you by criticizing you?

The fact that you’ve had this dream more than once concerns me that he may have an anger problem. Just as he was possessed in the dream, does it sometimes seem like some angry person had taken over his body? Is he sometimes not himself?

The murder aspect of these dreams suggests he may be trying to force some sort of change on you. Death in a dream is a natural change or ending in waking life whereas murder in a dream is a forced change or ending. The unknown man that was trying to rescue you in the dream is most likely your own male, assertive self. Do you recall trying to “grow a pair” and stand up for yourself that day… to no avail?

His remorse in the dream shows he’s truly sorry in waking life. Nonetheless, if there are changes he is trying to get you to make, you may wanna tell him to lighten up a bit about it because it’s giving you nightmares!


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7 Responses to “Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream”

  1. Noah Says:

    I had no idea that shared dreaming really happened until last night when my fiancĂ©e and I both dreamt that she was pregnant and lost the child just before birth ( I dreamt that it was a miscarriage she that it was a botched C-section I think I understand this because she tends to have an external locus of control whereas I internal) The fear and pain were so real we woke up at the same time and everything it was weird. I read several dream interpretations but nothing where it was like this, it was so much like a movie scene waking up at the same time having the same dream and everything just… wow

  2. osama Says:

    u guys r gna break up.

  3. connie Says:

    we had the same dream that he was in jail..

  4. Trinity Says:

    I and my friend dreamt dat we were shopping perfumes at a particular shop same shop same nite n we both bought three perfume each in our separate dreams wat does it mean

  5. Dollar BiLLz Says:

    i had a dream with the absence of my wife who we had a little misunderstanding and she left to her family house. This my ex visited me at our residence that night we both had a dream and my wife came home and caught us red handed which nearly resulted a problem. Am so surprise

  6. Anubhav Says:

    Me and my friend having the same dream since 4 weeks and this happens a lot of time since we are friend. I’m not bluffing

  7. Kaitlin Says:

    Last night my boyfriend and I had a pregnancy dream. I dreamt that I took a test and it came out positive, but I was with my ex and searching for my current boyfriend so I could tell him. However, in his dream he was at home with his parents and I called him telling him that I was pregnant. What does this mean..?

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