Dirty talk can terrify even the most seasoned sexual adventurerâ€”people are afraid of sounding stupid or afraid of like a pornstar… or perhaps theyâ€™re afraid of not sounding like a pornstar. But when you break it down, dirty talk is actually much simpler and more approachable than you might think. Here are five easy ways to try it out:
1. React to Whatâ€™s Happening
If something feels good, say so. Start with moans and sighs (they count, too!), or a breathy repetition of your partnerâ€™s name, and work up to â€śYes!â€ť or â€śThat feels goodâ€ť or â€śI love it when you do thatâ€ťâ€”and eventually you can build up to â€śI love it when you [BLANK] with your [BLANK].â€ť
2. Ditch Your Thesaurus
Speaking of the [BLANK]: As a general rule, the more words a term for the genitals contains, the more likely it is to induce giggles or a wince. On the other hand, you probably want to steer clear of terms that a gynecologist or urologist would useâ€”penis, vulva, vagina, etc. (kind of a buzz kill!). Youâ€™re safest sticking to the casual basics for his junk, i.e. cock or dick. For her, if youâ€™re comfortable with pussy, then go for it. Or, you could just work around specific terms and simply substitute â€śyouâ€ť and â€śmeâ€ť instead, e.g. â€śI want you inside meâ€ť; â€śYou feel so good on top of meâ€ť; etc.
3. Compliment Your Partner
Compliment each otherâ€™s body parts, compliment the way a partner feels or looks or smells or sounds, tell them how sexy it is when they climax, tell them how turned on you get when they moan, and so on. In context, youâ€™d be surprised how dirty this all sounds.
4. Ask Questions
â€śDo you want me to [BLANK]?â€ť â€śDo you like that?â€ť â€śHow does that feel?â€ť â€śWhat do you want me to do with my [BLANK]?â€ť â€śDoes that feel good?â€ť â€śWhat do you want me to do next?â€ť â€śWhat would turn you on?â€ť â€śWhat do you want to do to me?â€ť
5. Give Directions
â€śTouch me here.â€ť â€śKiss me there.â€ť â€śTake off your clothes.â€ť â€śI want you to come.â€ť â€śClose your eyes.â€ť â€śTurn over.â€ť â€śLeave that on.â€ť â€śPut your hand here.â€ť â€śDonâ€™t move.â€ť â€śDonâ€™t stop.â€ť â€śPlease donâ€™t stop.â€ť
Whatever you say, make your voice a little lower and softer or huskier than your regular voice. This will probably come naturallyâ€”kind of like how your voice automatically gets higher when you talk to a babyâ€”and the more you do it, the more naturally it will come. Now get out there and verbalize!