The following is from our very own naughty dictionary,Â 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink.Â Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie iconÂ indicates an activity or prop mentioned in theÂ Fifty ShadesÂ series (symbolic of the famous woven tieÂ Christian GreyÂ uses to restrainÂ Anastasia Steele). The idea being: look up something youâre interested in and, from there,Â make it a choose-your-own-adventure book by following any bolded words that pique your interest to their own dedicated entry. Or just start at A and donât stop âtil you get to Zâor âtil youâre compelled to try something out with your partner, whichever comes first!:
The only kink accessory guaranteed to make it past judgmental cleaning ladies, visiting parents, and airport security (hell, the airline might even give you a blindfold for free if itâs an overnight flight!). Itâs also a must-have for beginners: If youâre having trouble embracing your inner kinkster, making your partner don a blindfold will make everything seem less, well, silly.
Not sure that a latex catsuit is âyouâ? Then blindfold your partner and make them guess what youâre wearing with their hands. Afraid that your paddle action is lackluster and limp-wristed? Keep your victim in the dark while you work on your swing. Does eye contact keep taking you out of the moment whenever you try to role-play? Itâs much easier to stay in character (and avoid the giggles) if only one of you can see. Basically, when your partner wears a blindfold, your inhibitions are lowered, much like having sex on tequilaâbut without the raging hangover or diminished hand-eye coordination (and five minutes with this book should tell you that many of the activities described herein require advanced hand-eye coordinationâŚsloppy cock and ball torture, anyone?).
And when you wear the blindfold? Itâs a legitimate excuse to just lie back, relax and be attended toâsimply enjoying the heightened sense of touch that results from another one of your senses (in this case sight) being restricted. See also sensory deprivation.