Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst¬†Lauri Loewenberg¬†tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze?¬†Click here to submit it.¬†This week, a reader asks Lauri:
In the past couple of days I have had weird dreams about my wife. The first dream went like this: She wasn’t feeling too well so I took her to see the doctor. At the clinic/hospital, there was a sea of doctors to choose from. Trying to lighten her mood, I asked her to pick a cute/good looking one (I don’t think I really specified male or female). She then picked a male doctor, who happened to be someone I knew from medical school (we were classmates). He came along and I started to tell him about her symptoms (a fever, etc), she told me I didn’t know exactly how she felt (in a nice way) and shooed me away. Next I found myself in some kind of vantage position (picture being on the top bunk of a bunk bed and looking down on the bottom bunk over the edge). The doctor started examining/treating her and then I saw that he started fingering her and my wife was moaning. I don’t really know what happened afterwards but next thing I recall is my wife coming out to meet me in a waiting room with that smile and after-sex/after-orgasm glow. I woke up shortly after.
Second dream: We were in our apartment and I was in the living room and she was in the bedroom with another woman (I don’t think I know who it was). It seemed like they were either just cleaning or talking. The next thing I recall is that they were making love. I did not see them in the act and I somehow didn’t have the willpower to get up to go to the bedroom to actually look at them but from the sounds it was clear what they were up to. While I was in the living room, I happened to be watching porn on the TV. Then I vaguely recall them climaxing in the room and I in the living room.
What can all these possibly mean?
Lauri:¬†¬†The hospital setting of the first dream suggests that there is something within the marriage or perhaps something solely with your wife that needs to get better… and it seems you are trying to help correct the situation.
The way your wife says that you don’t know how she feels when you are trying to describe her symptoms may really be connected to her feelings that you don’t understand her. Has she recently said to you, “You don’t get it; you don’t know how I feel.”? Or “You don’t know how I should feel?”
The vantage point you have either means your wife feels you “look down on her” or something she is doing, or it could mean you are trying to rise above the issue at hand, take the high road, etc.
At the end of both dreams your wife orgasms, which is a good indication that she has taken care of the waking life issue on her own. What has she done in waking life, without you? In what way has she brought completion or satisfaction to herself? It seems that, through these dreams, you are realizing that she has become self reliant in some respect.
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