You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it (or have it done to you). That means being pressured is not helpful. Whether it is â€śbut everyone else loves itâ€ť peer pressure, some jackass saying you owe them, or some well-meaning person telling you to try try again.
I appreciate people sharing their perspective on how, to them, a blow job is an act that does give the woman a lot of power and is not degrading. And sharing details on how they make it work for them. Good to know.
But the stuff about how â€śsadâ€ť it is that someone doesnâ€™t enjoy it and how they should try again because they must be getting it wrong. Maybe itâ€™s not meant that way, but itâ€™s pretty condescending. You may not have the same beliefs as the people who go around getting into othersâ€™ faces about how theyâ€™re going to hell if they donâ€™t accept Jesus as their personal savior, but youâ€™re pushing your views in the same patronizing way. Thatâ€™s crossing a line.
Everyone has different preferences, and thatâ€™s okay even if their preferences arenâ€™t the same as â€śmost peopleâ€ť. Whatâ€™s most important in having a healthy attitude towards sex is not â€śtrying everythingâ€ť (though, if you want to, have at it), itâ€™s knowing your own wants and needs and respecting the wants and needs of others (even if they differ from you).