My partner prefers that the lights (or at least some kind of light) are on. At first, it made me very self conscious. Over time I‚Äôve become much more comfortable with it because I know that it‚Äôs a turn on for him. Basically, he likes to SEE me.¬†If we wake up in the middle of the night for a romp, I‚Äôll sometimes flip the light switch over the bed before he gets the chance. He loves it when I do that because it means that I know (and appreciate) that it turns him on. and that I‚Äôm comfortable enough to initiate that. It was easy to get comfortable because he gave me so much affirmation about how much he loved my body.