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Dear Em & Lo,
I’m having trouble having an orgasm with my BF. I am on medication (Welbutrin 300 mg, and Zoloft 25 mg). Could that be causing my problem? I mean, Iâ€™ll use toys for hours and nothing happens. Sometimes Iâ€™ll get very wet but other times I just dry up. Sex is pretty new to me. I became active at 27, I’m currently going on 29. I donâ€™t know what it is. I came a lot one time — he used a cucumber on me and I came for the first time. I wasnâ€™t on my medication that time, though.
He expects this to happen all the time now with intercourse. I mean, is my vagina used to the cucumber and I’m not being pleasured enough by my BF? It feels good when weâ€™re having sex, but his goal every time is to make me orgasm. He gets frustrated and doesnâ€™t feel like heâ€™s good enough. I love having sex with him, but he just makes me feel like I HAVE to orgasm every time, and he gets upset when I donâ€™t. It’s just so much pressure, plus I have a hard time trying to concentrate on my own.
I donâ€™t know what to do! Sometimes he doesnâ€™t want to have sex with me because he canâ€™t make it happen. I am not his first, heâ€™s had many women before me, and apparently I’m the only one heâ€™s had trouble accomplishing this with. Iâ€™m pretty fed up with it. I donâ€™t want this to be the reason we have sex. What should i do? What can I do? I’m so fed up, I donâ€™t even have the patience to concentrate while I’m trying to masturbate myself. Heâ€™s even starting to make me feel like itâ€™s something I have to do.
Before I was with my BF, I thought masturbation was wrong, and I wasnâ€™t interested in it. Truthfully, I’m not really into it now. I feel stupid when I do it. Is there any hope for me? I just want to feel good and make my BF happy. What should I do?
– Veggie Booty
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