Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I am big into pain while having sex, and I am also into vampires. My¬†fiance and I live together and he knows about the things I like. Well, one night while we were both sleeping he snuck up on me like vampire. Like he was lying next to me in bed and slowly¬†creeped on top of me. He then pushed my shoulders down holding me tight and bit my neck. I liked every second of this because I LOVE being dominated and controlled in the bedroom. What I don’t get is why he did this while he was sleeping. After about 10 seconds, he let go, turned around and went back to sleep.¬†He didn’t even remember doing it the next day! What does it mean? Am I just lucky or should I be worried?
Lauri: Aw, man.Too bad for you he didn‚Äôt continue!!While it is not unusual to talk in one‚Äôs sleep, it is more unusual to act out while asleep.So I have a few questions for you to pose to your boyfriend.Does he have a history of sleep walking?Sleep walkers in childhood often go through phases of it again as adults and it’s often triggered by stress.While he didn‚Äôt actually get up and walk, he did act out so if he did sleep walk as a child, keep an eye on him in case he actually makes it out of bed next time.Is he on any sleep aids such as Ambien?Ambien has been known to cause all kinds of parasomnias, which are abnormal and unnatural movements, behaviors, emotions and perceptions that occur while falling asleep, sleeping, between sleep stages, or arousal from sleep. One of the most reported parasomnias caused by Ambien is sleep sex!If he answered no to all of the above, then keep yourself aware of his sleep behavior.If he acts out again, start keeping track.It couldbe the beginnings of REM Behavior Disorder where people act out their violent dreams.It mostly affects men and, of the men affected, most are middle aged.It can be treated with muscle relaxers should that wind up being the case.But odds are it is nothing to worry about and should give you a great role playing game idea for the bedroom‚Ä¶ if you haven‚Äôt acted that out already.
Response from dreamer: This does seem right. He said that he was caught sleep walking once as a child, but hasn’t noticed or been told about it besides that.¬† We have had sex after “waking up” in the middle of the night, and he hasn’t ever remembered it the next day. I have told him about it, and he just is in amazement that it happened. He is not on any kind of sleeping medications.¬† He also grinds his teeth really bad while he sleeps. Is this a part of REM Behavioral Disorder? Thank you for taking the time and answering my questions! It eases my mind to know that him acting like a vampire in his sleep isn’t really anything to worry about.
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