Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst¬†Lauri Loewenberg¬†tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze?¬†Click here to submit it.¬†This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I had a dream about a coworker that I have a crush on — we both work in the O.R. I am sure of two things: 1. He doesn’t know I like him, and 2. He is WAY out of my league.
I had a dream that he was on the table and under anesthesia. Everyone just walked out of the room and I was left standing there alone and very upset about his condition. His head was turned very far to the right, which made the intubation that much more obvious. I was crying and rubbing his neck, and saying over and over again, “You have to be ok. You can’t do this. You have to be ok.” Once I said, “You have to come back to me.” I actually woke up crying a little from this.
Lauri:¬†As upsetting as this dream was for you, I believe it is trying to help you manage your emotions in regards to your co-worker. In the dream he is under anesthesia because in real life he is oblivious and not awake to the fact that you dig him. You are rubbing his neck/throat area in the dream for two reasons, I believe:
1. The neck/throat area is where the voice comes from. Have there been times where you really wanted to voice yourself to him?
2. Voicing your interest in him would really put both of your “necks” on the line as far as your job goes. I mean, you guys are working in an operating room… the absolute last place there should be any distraction whatsoever!¬†But you know this; your dream reflects this knowledge.
Finally, what you say to him in the dream is what you are really saying to yourself in regards to him (I always say, dreams are a conversation with the self): “You have to be okay. You can’t do this.” YOU have to be okay. YOU can’t let this attraction overpower you. YOU can’t do this, i.e. you can’t tell him how you feel and you can’t let it get the best of you.
And I believe when you say, “You have to come back to me,” you are really saying you have to bring your thoughts and focus back to yourself so you can continue to perform at your best while in the O.R. And this is where your sadness over his potential death comes in to play. Deep down, you know it just can’t be, and so, through this dream, you are expressing your sadness over this reality. I understand. You can’t help whom you are attracted to but you are a human and we humans have will power and self control, and through this dream, I believe you are drawing upon yours.
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