Reader Jane said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Whatâ€™s the Best Way to Tell a Guy Iâ€™m a Virgin?”
If a girl is a virgin at a certain age, 20, 25, 30 etcâ€¦ and she is with a guy, in a new relationship, and WANTS to have sex with himâ€¦ why would a guy assume that sex wonâ€™t happen anytime soon just because she is a virgin??
I mean, if being a virgin was a fault, a mistakeâ€¦ and a girl finally WANTS to put an end to her state of â€śvirginityâ€ť, obviously she has to have sex with a guy. But if all guys react this way and ran awayâ€¦ she still never has the chance to have sex..
Being in a new relationship and being a virgin means: â€śIâ€™ve never had sex BEFOREâ€ť, but from the moment a girl, a virgin, finds a boyfriend, it just means she WANTS to have sex. She tells the guy sheâ€™s a virgin because she wants him to be delicate when they do it and not expect to have sex in all the kama sutra positions on the first nightâ€¦
So what is it that scares guys?Â Is it actually the lack of sexual experience, rather than not expecting sex to happen anytime soon?
I think thatâ€™s really the problem. Nowadays, with the porn industry being so mainstream, every guy wants to have sex with a girl who â€śknows her waysâ€ť. So to me, thatâ€™s really what scares guy. They picture having sex with a virgin as laying in bed with someone crying all the time and not movingâ€¦ And thatâ€™s just a prejudice! Someone who has never had sex before, but decides to do it, could be as passionate and hot as the guy wantsâ€¦ but by running away, he just gives her no chance to prove it. Itâ€™s all a prejudice. The word â€śvirginâ€ť recalls so many more â€śghostsâ€ť than what it actually means.