Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call â€“ Heâ€™s Kinky, Sheâ€™s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?
Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or two submissives will have a hard time getting along in the bedroom. A breeder with a non-breeder usually wonâ€™t work out. And â€¦ a vanilla will have a hard time being with a BDSMâ€™er.
If you are not happy in all three of those major categories (money, sex, kids/parenting style) then there will be major clashes and it wonâ€™t last.
Itâ€™s better to break it off early, amicably.
Find someone else you click with on those 3 things. Everything else you get along on is just icing on the cake.