Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call â€“ Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?”
I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and donâ€™t consider it â€śacting like a 3 year oldâ€ť. After 20 years of marriage and multiple children, it seems that my wife (my best friend; no one else even comes close) takes the depth of our friendship for granted. I wouldnâ€™t go so far as to say that she doesnâ€™t love me, but she certainly gets more enjoyment out of her phone calls/texting/facebooking with girlfriends than she does with me. Is it really that unreasonable for me to be jealous of the fact that I am no longer the recipient of the intimacy and affection of our best-friend conversations?
I assure you that I am still affectionate with my wife, and let her know I love her on a regular basis, so this isnâ€™t a one-sided situation. Iâ€™m not denying her her friendships, but at the same time I think that I deserve to be more than â€śthe other parentâ€ť and business partner. Ladies, do you really consider that immature and needy?
From where I sit, I see my wife as being neglectful of our relationship, and only sees me as the person that helps discipline the kids, and work the business. Iâ€™ve lost the â€śfriend & confidantâ€ť role in our friendship, and I truly miss that. Itâ€™s been â€śoutsourcedâ€ť. Apparently girlfriends do that better, and according to the women in this forum, trying to have an open, communicative conversation about it with my wife will only make me less desirable to her. So where does that leave me?