Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst¬†Lauri Loewenberg¬†tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze?¬†Click here to submit it¬†(18 and older only, please).¬†This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I have dreams literally ALL the time that I am cheating on my boyfriend. I don’t have the guts to cheat on him, and that’s something I promised I would NEVER do. I love him more than anything. All these dreams I have are about guys I know.
Dream #1: I am in my bedroom having sex with my friend’s boyfriend. I had sex with his brother a while back, but I’ve never been attracted to him. At the end of my dream I always say, “I can’t do this; I can’t cheat on my boyfriend,” and I wake up.
Dream #2: This happened last night. I dreamt that I was at a family party. This guy — who used to be like family ever since I was born, and I’ve always thought he was so attractive — was there. He has a wife and a kid now and he’s a lot older than me, but in my dream I see him and get excited and hug him and he sits down and puts me on his lap and starts making out with me. Then he says, “Let’s go have sex,” and I say, “I can’t; I just cheated on my boyfriend,” and woke up.
I really don’t remember my other dreams, but please help me, because every time I wake up it just feels like it wasn’t a dream and I feel so guilty.
Lauri:¬†Cheating dreams, whether we are the cheater or the cheated upon, always bring about one hell of an emotional response… and that’s where I would like to begin. In my latest book, Dream On It, Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, I have a chapter on the 10 rules to remember when decoding your dream, and one of them is that the emotion you are left with from your dream is connected to that same emotion you are experiencing over something in your waking life.
Your emotion is guilt. So what is it you are feeling guilty about in your relationship? In the dream you are cheating, so that’s a big clue. Usually cheating dreams are caused by a third wheel in the relationship, but rather than the third wheel being another person, it is usually a thing — something to which someone in the relationship is giving too much time and attention.
You are the guilty party here, so what is it that you are doing that might be causing your boyfriend to feel “cheated” out of his time and attention with you? Are you working too much? Are you spending more time with friends or family than with him? Whatever it is, deep down you know it is wrong, and not helping the relationship, so take these dreams as a wake up call to give your relationship a little more T.L.C. When you do, the dreams will stop.
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