Other people‚Äôs dreams are never interesting‚Ä¶except when they‚Äôre about sex. Each week, our dream analyst¬†Lauri Loewenberg¬†tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it¬†(18 and older only, please).¬†This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I am in a relationship of 4 years and have just had another one of these stupid dreams:¬†I dreamt that my boyfriend is with someone else and I am seeing them together and then I’m going up to them trying to hurt him and he’s carrying on fine and doesn’t feel anything, like I’m invisible. Everything’s sad and loud for me — shouting, etc. Could this be my fear, and something to do with me? Or, as it’s happened before, or is it trying to tell me something else?
Lauri: This has everything to do with you and, in fact, this dream (which seems to be one of many) is trying to be brutally honest with you. Even if your boyfriend is being faithful right now, even if in his heart he knows he won’t cheat again, your dream is trying to make it clear to you that YOU have not healed.
In the dream you want to hurt him (I’m assuming physically) because in real life, deep down, you want him to understand the emotional hurt you still have. You are invisible in the dream because in real life you must feel like your concerns are invisible to him, or perhaps he is acting like his cheating in the past is now invisible. You are shouting in the dream because in real life you don’t feel you have been heard.
Since you keep getting these dreams, your waking life pain needs to be addressed. If the two of you can’t reach a place in your relationship where you are comfortable again, you may want to seriously consider if this relationship is worth continuing. A relationship should feel comfortable and your dreams are showing you that you are not. The dreams won’t stop until this is taken care of. Dreams do not lie and they try to help us be honest with ourselves. Good luck to you!
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