We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband is choosing porn over sex — by leaving your advice in the comments section.
My husband masturbates pretty much everyday and says it’s faster and easier than having sex. I feel like he has a low libido though because he seems to only be willing to have sex 1- 2 times a week. Sometimes we don’t even have it in 1 whole week or 2 weeks. I have a very high libido. I could have once/sex twice a day everyday. Sometimes he will choose pornography to stimulate himself and get erect. Does this mean he isn’t attracted to me and that’s something I should be worried about? He has never been in a relationship before and we are 7 months married.
— Attention Seeker
Why is her husband choosing porn over sex and masturbating every day but only being with her once every week or two? Are their libidos really that different? Is pornography desensitizing him to the real thing? Could he be addicted to porn? Is he longing for the variety he missed out on by never seriously dating anyone before his marriage?