So we were catching up on our train-wreck viewing on Tivo last night and saw a bit of Dancing with the Stars (we know, we know, but it’s like sequined crack!). Anyway, one of the contestants is Holly Madison, the den mother of the Barbie-esque triptych that “dated” — and fairly recently broke up with — Hugh Hefner. (If you ever saw any of their reality show, The Girls Next Door, then you know what a strange business relationship they all had, complete with office rules and curfews for the three female “employees.”) After her quickstep, during the public critique by the judges, we were struck by how judge Carrie Ann Inaba’s assessment of Madison’s dance was also a perfect feminist critique of her relationship with Grampa Ascot:
What I think is so nice about you is that you’re so willing and eager, that you definitely trust him, you let him drag you around…but I had the feeling you were kind of like a doll and he was just dragging you around the floor. And I didn’t feel that you were grounded in your own… You have to hold your own with [your partner] and be an equal partner in the relationship. Okay? So work on that.