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Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend Switched Bodies with Me

January 16, 2014

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

A few months ago my boyfriend described a dream he had. He said that he and I were having sex and it was really amazing. And then he said that right as he was about to orgasm in the dream he sort of got this tunnel vision, and the moment he orgasmed he said that he was in my body, but with his own thoughts. He was looking with my eyes and my body. I also wanted to know more about this switching bodies dream… and is this a common dream? (Not necessarily this specific details or even the sexual aspect of it being common, but the aspect of being in someone else’s body.)

Lauri:¬†Your boyfriend’s dream is actually a really great example of what sex dreams are really about; it’s not so much about the sex but about the joining together, the merging of ideas, opinions or qualities. Your boyfriend’s dream seems to show us that, not only is he really into you, but that he also really seems to understand you. Seeing through your eyes is symbolic of “seeing your point of view.”

Also notice how he had tunnel vision just before he could see through your eyes. That’s a common phrase we use to describe someone who typically sees things only one way. Prior to his dream, do you recall having some sort of intimate conversation where you were able to open his mind or change his opinion? Did something happen that allowed him to be more understanding of you? It’s a cool dream and a great sign that he’s — ahem — “coming” from a really good place.

As far as switching bodies in a dream, it’s not one of the more common dream elements we get, but it certainly does happen as it has been reported to me quite a bit. Depending on the context of the dream, it most often means that you are now walking in someone else’s shoes, so to speak, or are gaining a greater understanding of them. Again, it all depends on the context of the dream.

Hope this helps clear things up for you! Also? I think your boyfriend, after hearing about this dream of his, deserves a mind-blowing orgasm — so get to it!

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Dream Interpretation: I Had a Hot Threesome with an Ex and Her Ex

January 9, 2014

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My dream is about a threesome. It starts off with me (female femme lesbian) going on a trip to some musical theater on a blue bus. There are a whole bunch of people on the bus. I guess that it’s a college trip of some kind. There is a girl (stud lesbian who I’ll call Alex) who I went to high school with and had a huge crush on. We both talked and flirted before in real life but now we’re just friends. Another person on the bus I recognized was Alex’s ex (bisexual girl who I’ll call Mia). In real life, there’s bad tension between Mia and me — we don’t talk.

In the dream my sketch pads started falling out of my bag. It seemed like I was stressed out and in a hurry. After I got all my stuff together I went to the bathroom to put it all in my bag. When I looked up I saw Alex and Mia talking. They both came to me and Alex said, “I wish I could have both of you.” We all put our arms around one another. I made out with Mia while Alex felt around both of us. Did I mention the bathroom was blue? We all had sex and rushed back to the bus. The three of us sat next to each other, laughing and smiling, putting a huge blanket over all of us. I fingered Mia while Alex kissed my neck and shoulders, touching my breasts, and then she fingered me.

When I woke up I remembered Alex had to do my hair this weekend and I got really nervous because I realized that Alex and Mia just broke up and I would love if this happens in real life. I feel horrible that I want this. I’ve always really wanted Mia to like me but she doesn’t because I flirt with Alex. They’re both gorgeous and it seemed like a dream come true.

Lauri: We tend to dream about what is on our mind the most, and through the dream we try to work out the issue. While the idea of a threesome with these two ladies is something that excites you, I think the dream is more about your desire to get rid of the tension and have harmony with them, which is why you were headed to a musical in the dream.

I think the sketch pads falling out of your bag symbolize the “falling out” that Mia and Alex had. Is there something “sketchy” about that breakup or about Mia? If not, then the sketch pads would symbolize your ability to create an ideal situation out of this.

Going into the bathroom is another sign that you wish to relieve yourself of the tension and perhaps even the emotional angst of not having Alex for yourself after all these years. What Alex says in there — “I wish I could have both of you” — is really coming from you. This is a thought you generated. So again, this is about your desire to have harmony among the three of you, your wish to have them both on your side. And sex acts in dreams are often about the need to “come together” on some level in waking life.

All the blue in this dream suggests you have been “blue” about the situation… or about something. It seems your dreaming mind is urging you to take this as an opportunity to finally create harmony. Let us know how it goes!

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Dream Interpretation: We Both Dreamed About Her Deceased Husband

January 2, 2014

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My girlfriend and I had the same dream of her deceased husband who passed 2 yrs ago. She dreamt that he came back and he was ok with her staying with me even tho he is back. And I dreamt he asked me nicely to go as he wants to be with his family again. What does this mean?

Lauri: Having the same or similar dream as someone else on the same night is called shared dreaming and it usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter, etc. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams.

That being said, do you recall if the day before this dream you and your girlfriend spoke about her deceased husband? In both your dreams he came back, which makes me think perhaps the two of you brought up marriage or perhaps having a deeper commitment to each other.

Her dream is very telling in that it shows us she is ready to move on and love again. That’s a big deal! I can’t tell you how many women I have done dream work with that won’t move on because they feel as though they would be cheating on their husband. But your dream shows some apprehension.

Him telling you that he wants to be with his family again seems to reflect a concern you may have that his presence will continue to be felt in this relationship. Do you worry that your girlfriend compares you to him? It sounds like she has children. Do you worry that if you married her, her children may not welcome you?

Remember, dreams are a conversation with the self, so your inner dialogue shows some serious concern. Let this be an opportunity to bring this up to her and you can start the conversation by reminding her of this dream. Dreams are the most honest expressions we have. If you are upfront and honest about this, she’ll appreciate it and will likely reassure you… if her dream hasn’t done that for you already. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Dreamer’s response: Thank you so much for informing us of the meaning of our dreams. Yes, we have been talking about us and the future so I guess it‚Äôs a sort of acceptance and closure. She dreams about her husband a lot and all I say is, he comes to visit in her dreams to see if she is ok. And yes she has children and we get along very well.

Her husband was a great man and she loved him to bits. I think she does not compare me to him but because it was so sudden and then all of a sudden meeting me it’s been a quick transition from loving one to another. But we both care about each other very much. But I understand what it means now and I will definitely keep in touch. Again, thank you very much.

Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book,¬†Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!¬†Check out all of Lauri’s books here.

 

 

 

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Dream Interpretation: I Was Wearing a Flaccid Strap-On

December 4, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

The other day, my boyfriend told me he dreamed I was wearing a strap-on. The catch is, it was a flaccid penis rather than a hard one. What could this possibly mean?

Lauri:¬†Since it’s his dream, you’ll have to do your best to get inside his head for me. Now, I will assume that you guys are not into gender-bending roleplay in the bedroom, in which case this dream seemed to have come out of left field, correct? If so, the flaccid strap on — which would likely be an abysmal failure in the sex toy market — is more about your male assertive energy.

This dream seems to suggest that your boyfriend feels that you have the ability to “put on” an assertive role in your life, an ability to “stand up” for yourself and be “firm” when you need to but, instead, you are being “soft” and meek. It may be regarding one particular instance rather than in general, but nonetheless, it seems your honey believes in you but you aren’t fully applying yourself. In other words, “man up,” sista!

Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book,¬†Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!¬†Check out all of Lauri’s books here.

 

 

 

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Dream Interpretation: Another Couple Made Out in Front of Us

November 21, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Hello, I had a dream that I was in my husband’s room and I looked over and saw a girl and guy we both knew making out. My husband left as soon as he saw it. I just sat there, upset he’d gone. When he came back he started yelling at me and saying that he didn’t want to be with me, he didn’t want to touch me. He told me we could still be married but he didn’t want to be physically intimate or emotional with me. He seemed jealous of the other couple. I went on to say then I will go be with someone else. He got mad and slapped me. The couple then stopped making out and the girl told him not to hurt me. It was a horrible dream. My husband has never done anything like what I dreamt, so my dream is confusing and scary. What does it mean??

Lauri:¬†Your husband’s room? As in bedroom? If you two aren’t sharing a room then, odds are, you are missing out on many opportunities for intimacy. Perhaps this works for you. Maybe he’s a snorer, but whatever the case, the marital bed is a very important ingredient to an intimate marriage.

This may be what the other couple in the dream represents, as they were being intimate. They are the “other couple” you guys used to be… or that you want to be. All the anger and the jealousy your husband is showing in your dream is really your anger and jealousy. This is your dream, your creation, therefore your emotions.

Are you mad at yourself? Are you mad at the circumstances of your marriage? Are you feeling more like roommates — not sharing a bedroom, not very emotional or intimate — rather than a married couple? I believe the slap in the dream was a slap in the face from your subconscious; it seems to be trying to slap you into reality that perhaps your marriage needs a some spice and passion.

Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book,¬†Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!¬†Check out all of Lauri’s books here.

 

 

 

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Dream Interpretation: My Straight Husband Received Gay Oral

November 13, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My husband, two nights in a row, has dreamed of oral sex. The first night was him getting a blow job from Tully on Australian Big Brother and the second night was him getting blow job from Ben from the same show!!! OMG! Am I insufficient?

Lauri:¬†My goodness, I hope not! Surely Hubby would let you know if your oral skills weren’t up to par. Don’t worry. These dreams are more about him than they are about you.

Oral sex in a dream is often about communication in real life… intimate conversation to be more precise. Since your husband was on the receiving end of the oral sex, it is likely that he was on the receiving end of this conversation in real life. ¬†The givers in these dreams are clues as to what this intimate conversation may have been about. The common thread is that they are both on Big Brother. So it may not be so much about these people but more about what Big Brother represents to your husband (dream interpretation is like the game connect the dots). Did husband feel on display recently? Was he under scrutiny? Was he worried about being scrutinized and evicted in some way, kicked out of something at work or in his family or social group?

Whatever the case, it seems a good, honest and intimate conversation was had over the situation and that he has been… left satisfied!

Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book,¬†Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!¬†Check out all of Lauri’s books here.

 

 

 

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Dream Interpretation: I Dreamed My Crush Was Under Anesthesia

November 7, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had a dream about a coworker that I have a crush on — we both work in the O.R. I am sure of two things: 1. He doesn’t know I like him, and 2. He is WAY out of my league.

I had a dream that he was on the table and under anesthesia. Everyone just walked out of the room and I was left standing there alone and very upset about his condition. His head was turned very far to the right, which made the intubation that much more obvious. I was crying and rubbing his neck, and saying over and over again, “You have to be ok. You can’t do this. You have to be ok.” Once I said, “You have to come back to me.” I actually woke up crying a little from this.

Lauri: As upsetting as this dream was for you, I believe it is trying to help you manage your emotions in regards to your co-worker. In the dream he is under anesthesia because in real life he is oblivious and not awake to the fact that you dig him. You are rubbing his neck/throat area in the dream for two reasons, I believe:

1. The neck/throat area is where the voice comes from. Have there been times where you really wanted to voice yourself to him?

2. Voicing your interest in him would really put both of your “necks” on the line as far as your job goes. I mean, you guys are working in an operating room… the absolute last place there should be any distraction whatsoever!¬†But you know this; your dream reflects this knowledge.

Finally, what you say to him in the dream is what you are really saying to yourself in regards to him (I always say, dreams are a conversation with the self): “You have to be okay. You can’t do this.” YOU have to be okay. YOU can’t let this attraction overpower you. YOU can’t do this, i.e. you can’t tell him how you feel and you can’t let it get the best of you.

And I believe when you say, “You have to come back to me,” you are really saying you have to bring your thoughts and focus back to yourself so you can continue to perform at your best while in the O.R. And this is where your sadness over his potential death comes in to play. Deep down, you know it just can’t be, and so, through this dream, you are expressing your sadness over this reality. I understand. You can’t help whom you are attracted to but you are a human and we humans have will power and self control, and through this dream, I believe you are drawing upon yours.

Want to be able to figure out your own dreams every morning? Lauri’s latest book,¬†Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!¬†Check out all of Lauri’s books here.

 

 

 

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Dream Interpretation: I Liked My Bi Dream, Does That Mean I’m Bi?

October 24, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had a dream last night where my best friend (a girl, like me) and I had sex…and I enjoyed it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Does that mean I am BI??????????????????

Lauri: No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  If you were bisexual, you would probably know it by now.  Everybody gets naughty dreams where they are with the same gender. And gay people get dreams where they are with the opposite sex. Dreams are not to be taken literally because they speak in a symbolic language.

In addition, sex dreams aren’t commenting on your sexuality, they are commenting on your psyche. ¬†Most often, sex dreams are really about the union of qualities, mindsets or opinions. If you look at it this way — psychologically rather than sexually — it makes sense that you would have had such a dream with your BFF.

The day before you must have really connected in some way, united emotionally and/or psychologically. In a nutshell, the two of you came together in your dream because you “came together” on some level in real life. ¬†Make sense??????????????????

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My Fiance Bit Me Like a Vampire in His Sleep

October 20, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I am big into pain while having sex, and I am also into vampires. My¬†fiance and I live together and he knows about the things I like. Well, one night while we were both sleeping he snuck up on me like vampire. Like he was lying next to me in bed and slowly¬†creeped on top of me. He then pushed my shoulders down holding me tight and bit my neck. I liked every second of this because I LOVE being dominated and controlled in the bedroom. What I don’t get is why he did this while he was sleeping. After about 10 seconds, he let go, turned around and went back to sleep.¬†He didn’t even remember doing it the next day! What does it mean? Am I just lucky or should I be worried?
Lauri: Aw, man.Too bad for you he didn‚Äôt continue!!While it is not unusual to talk in one‚Äôs sleep, it is more unusual to act out while asleep.So I have a few questions for you to pose to your boyfriend.Does he have a history of sleep walking?Sleep walkers in childhood often go through phases of it again as adults and it’s often triggered by stress.While he didn‚Äôt actually get up and walk, he did act out so if he did sleep walk as a child, keep an eye on him in case he actually makes it out of bed next time.Is he on any sleep aids such as Ambien?Ambien has been known to cause all kinds of parasomnias, which are abnormal and unnatural movements, behaviors, emotions and perceptions that occur while falling asleep, sleeping, between sleep stages, or arousal from sleep. One of the most reported parasomnias caused by Ambien is sleep sex!If he answered no to all of the above, then keep yourself aware of his sleep behavior.If he acts out again, start keeping track.It couldbe the beginnings of REM Behavior Disorder where people act out their violent dreams.It mostly affects men and, of the men affected, most are middle aged.It can be treated with muscle relaxers should that wind up being the case.But odds are it is nothing to worry about and should give you a great role playing game idea for the bedroom‚Ķ if you haven‚Äôt acted that out already.

Response from dreamer: This does seem right. He said that he was caught sleep walking once as a child, but hasn’t noticed or been told about it besides that.¬† We have had sex after “waking up” in the middle of the night, and he hasn’t ever remembered it the next day. I have told him about it, and he just is in amazement that it happened. He is not on any kind of sleeping medications.¬† He also grinds his teeth really bad while he sleeps. Is this a part of REM Behavioral Disorder? Thank you for taking the time and answering my questions! It eases my mind to know that him acting like a vampire in his sleep isn’t really anything to worry about.

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Dream Interpretation: I Banged My Boss!

October 4, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I only hangout with people I work with — mostly guys who are 8 or more years older than I am. I’ve never been uncomfortable with this, in fact I’ve had a few flings with two of them. But I had a dream that I had a serious romantic relationship with my boss who is middle-aged, but attractive. I haven’t thought of him in this way at all until I had this dream. In it, my parents encouraged a marriage between us that I wasn’t wanting at all yet he and my parents forced me to marry him. How could I have such a dream?

Lauri: Shagging the boss in your dreams can sure make it difficult to come into work the next day, huh? Remember, sex dreams are not necessarily about the person but rather about what he or she represents.

In the case of your boss it is most likely power, authority, management skills, decision making, etc. that you need to merge into your own life. Your parents are even encouraging marriage in this dream. In real life what have your parents been encouraging you to do? Take on more responsibility? Better management skills? Or maybe it’s your job in general that they are wanting to be long term for you?

You don’t want to do this in the dream so it must be connected to something in real life you aren’t to keen on… but that may in fact benefit you, regardless. Where in your life do you need to take on the role of boss?¬† Are you facing a tough decision?¬† Do you need to fire or get rid of a certain element, person or behavior in your life? ¬†Or perhaps you simply need to merge with your boss psychologically in order to deal with a client or project. Whatever the case, the message of this dream is that it’s time to take charge! Being decisive and authoritative would suit you well now.
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