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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I love him very much but I keep having this recurring dream (every night) about cheating on him with my ex boyfriend. Each dream is different but contains the same idea. The only similarity with each dream is that he catches us every time. I haven’t seen the ex I am dreaming about in over 2 years. Please help! It’s causing a lot of stress and worry! I would never cheat on my boyfriend

Lauri:  It might make you feel better to know that the cheating dream is extremely common… so common that you can find many variations of it in the archives of this column. The common thread that can be found in the meaning of the cheating dream where the dreamer is doing the cheating is that there is some level of guilt somewhere in the waking psyche of the dreamer. Of course, it’s not necessarily guilt over getting his or her jollies outside of the relationship in real life but rather guilt over thinking or doing something that goes against or takes away from the relationship in some way.

In your dream you are cheating with your ex AND you get caught each time. Let’s get the obvious out of the way. Are there any feelings towards him that still remain? Do you find yourself sometimes comparing your current boyfriend with this ex? Anything about your ex or that relationship that you wish were a part of your current boyfriend or a part of your current relationship? If you answered yes to any of the above, then this is why you keep having the dream and you keep getting caught in the dream because there is a certain level of guilt you have because of these thoughts or feelings. If you answered no to all of the above then perhaps there is something from that relationship that you are bringing into the current relationship such as distrust, frustration or anger. If so, then your dreams are telling you, again and again, that you are allowing it to become a third wheel in the relationship.

It is also possible that your ex may not be playing himself at all but instead may be representing something else from your life that ought to be in the past. So I want you to ask yourself if there is anything else going on in your life or in your thoughts that has you worried from time to time that that your boyfriend may “catch on” and get upset.

No matter what, these dreams are showing you that somewhere in your life or in your relationship or even somewhere in your mind you are stuck. There is something you need to let go of. Here’s the thing to remember about recurring dreams: the dreams cannot change and move forward unless YOU change and move forward. I hope this helps. Let us know.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It – it will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Well I just had a very disturbing dream about deciding to cut of my willy in the bath, and I feel it has nothing to do with preconceptions of how men and women behave.

In my dream, I don’t know why, I decided to cut it off with a knife, thinking I’d just reattach it, but then it got cut into like three bits somehow and there were all these fibers and blobby bits of flesh you can’t just stick back on. And it was almost in the dark, so I had to get up and switch the light on –getting up out of the bath and holding two knives and three bits of penis, making matters worse.

It was an absolute nightmare, but I don’t feel it had anything to do with societal pressures about “manning up.” If anything, more general than the simple terrifying possibility of absentmindedly cutting off my dick, maybe it had something to do with making regrettable irreversible changes. I don’t know — maybe you do?

By the way, this all took place in a rather quaint Bavarian apartment overlooking a town with gothic architecture!

Lauri:  Okay then, if you’re certain there is no situation in your life right now where you have become  – or need to become — less assertive and “manly”, then let’s see what else this dream could possibly mean. Since you are in the bath in this dream, then it is most likely connected to some waking issue where you are trying to cleanse yourself of something or someone that is negative, something or someone that is dirtying up your normally peaceful and clean state of mind.

You decide to cut off your willy, thinking you could reattach it. Dismemberment in a dream usually means the dreamer has severed ties with someone in the waking world. At the time of this dream, do you recall cutting someone out of your life in order to clean up your life? Perhaps someone you might describe as “a dick?”

Whatever the case, all the fibers and blobby bits suggest that what should have been a clean break has turned into a bit of a mess… or that you fear cutting ties could make a bad situation worse. And struggling to turn the light on may also be connected to your fear that when light is shed upon this situation, when the truth comes out, it will reveal to others the messy situation you now have on your hands.

If this seems to fit some area of your life, then what you can take from this dream is this: While a clean break may not be possible, it’s time to decide if it’s worth the mess in the long run.

Dreamer’s response: Thanks for interpreting my dream. I split up with a long-term girlfriend I really loved and still do, but our situation together became unbearable. We were fighting all the time, literally not sleeping because of endless rows. A couple of months after breaking up, we started seeing eachother again and since have been in a murky situation. We both know how we feel for one another, but I can’t get back with her. I know I can’t repair things and go back to our once happy past, but I also can’t stop desiring her.

I never would have made the connection between my dream and my relationship with her, but it makes total sense really. She was the last person I spoke to before going to bed, and when I woke up from that nightmare, I felt the need to send her a message telling her about it.

Cheers for helping me make sense of that! Dunno if it’ll help me resolve this situation, probably not, but at least I know it’s ravaging the depths of my soul! Hah…

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

This is a very strange dream and I’m almost embarrassed to ask about it but the image has been in my head all day and is quite disturbing:

I really want to get this image out of my head!!

Lauri: I answered a dream a couple of weeks ago about a tree trunk sized penis but I want to address this one because the circumstances connected to the dream are much different. Whenever something is over-sized in a dream it will represent something in waking life that is abundant or overwhelming. In the dream from a couple weeks ago, the giant penis represented the female dreamers abundant amount of so-called male, assertive energy. In your case, being that you were sexually abused as a child (I assume by a man) the penis represents the overwhelming fear or anxiety you now have caused by some abuser who used his penis inappropriately with you.

The sadness he has in the dream is really your sadness because he is a creation of your inner mind and is therefore a part of you. I would imagine that you, like the man in the dream, are unable to allow yourself to get intimate with someone because of your past. And like the man in the dream this probably saddens you because you would like to be able to.

The dream and the imagery in it are disturbing because they are connected to a disturbing issue.  But you can use this dream to help you heal. The man in the dream (which is the part of you that wants to be assertive and get better) wants you to touch his penis. That is actually symbolic of your need to get in “touch” with this part of you that is asking for help. It brings him pleasure when you do because doing this (getting in touch with and working with your abused self) will please your inner self, and will bring you satisfaction when you are able to overcome this hurdle in your psyche.

Dreams, as you know, are very visual and when using dreams in therapy an image in the dream will be focused on in order to take the fear out of it and what it represents. In a nutshell, you will want to imagine this penis as your pain/anxiety: it’s odd, it’s ugly and it makes you uncomfortable, just like your anxiety.  But if you face it, get in “touch” with it, and realize that you actually can control it rather than it control you, you’ll find it’s not quite as frightening anymore. Of course, the guidance from a trusted therapist will help this process along (if you aren’t already working with one). But see, I wanted to use your dream even thought I recently covered a similar one to show how dreams can actually be nifty little built-in healing mechanisms due to the imagery they present us with and the light they shine on our issues. So I hope this helps. And remember, yeah, it’s a big issue you’ve got yourself there but it is NOT bigger than you.  Good luck!

Dreamer’s response: Thank you so much for interpreting my dream for me. Anyway, I can really appreciate the interpretation of my dream. It makes total sense to me–I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. You are very talented and are providing a very valuable service to people like me. Again, thank you!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It – it will give you the tools you need to become a Dream Expert too!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had a dream I chopped off my testicles, but not my penis, then eventually managed to re-attach them, with the help of my whole family! But it also involved millions of tiny black balls leaking from the open wound.

Lauri: Em, Lo, and I all had an “Oh wow!” moment upon reading your dream so… thank you for that! Now, let’s figure it out for you. One of the most important rules to remember when figuring out your dreams is to see if you can find a pun or figure of speech in your dream; if you can find it, then you’ve found a good portion of the message.

We often say, “Someone chopped his balls off” when referring to a man who has been emasculated or weakened in some way. In your dream YOU were the one who put your own balls on the chopping block. This suggests you allowed yourself to be subservient or chose to be more passive, sensitive, or nurturing in some way. Did you get into a relationship where your partner called all the shots? Or was there something going on at your job or some other area of your life where you needed to “grow a pair” and take a stand — but chose not to?

The open wound, I believe, may be connected to an emotional wound in waking life… and part of your healing process must involve releasing or letting go of lots of little irritants, which may be what all the little black balls are. The fact that your family helped you re-attach your fellas is a good indication that they must have encouraged you to “man up” and assert yourself once and for all.

Dreamer’s response: That all makes so much sense now! Before I just thought I must have banged my head before bed, and a little bit of crazy had slipped in, but that actually all fits. You simply deciphered my dream’s message, but it’s like you have given me some pretty sound lifestyle advice! Thanks!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It, available everywhere!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My husband and I have been having trouble in bed. I’ve gained some weight and I can’t seem to turn him on. We haven’t had sex in over a month. Partly due to my period and the fact that I was out of town a few weeks but I have been home for 2 weeks now and no sex still. This morning he told me that he had a dream last night about a threesome. He said we were in Las Vegas (we went recently and have been talking about going back soon) and that I asked him to go hire a hooker because I wanted to have a threesome. I’m not bi at all and I would never consider the idea of a threesome. He knows I am very jealous. What does this mean? Does it mean he wants a threesome or he will cheat because he is unsatisfied with me? He says he loves me and would never be with another woman and I’ve never had trust issues but I’m scared since I don’t turn him on. What should I do?

Lauri: Since this is hubby’s dream, you’ll have to do your best to get inside his head and his thoughts so we can figure this out. I am going to go ahead and assume that he is not testing out the waters with you by telling you he dreamed of a threesome but instead I will take him at his word that he did actually have this dream and that he does mean it when he says he would never be with another woman.

The threesome in the dream is most likely symbolic of something else. You mentioned right off the bat that you have gained weight and don’t believe your husband is turned on by you anymore. You could be right. A woman’s intuition is a powerful thing! Through this dream, it seems your hubby is trying to adjust to the new you. With the added weight you probably look and act sometimes like a person your husband is not used to. This may be where the third person (the hooker) comes in. The hooker represents your sexual side, the part that wants to hook him and reel him into the bedroom! You asked for the hooker in the dream because you are the one asking for sex in waking life. He may feel that having sex with you now, with your new body, will feel like a different person than he is used to. I do think this dream shows he’s trying.

My hubby has told me several times that men are visual creatures and need to be visually stimulated. Why do you think so many women succumb to getting breast implants, weaves, lip fillers, etc.? Of course, this is certainly not true for all men… but it is true for many. Your hubby may need some visual stimuli. Next time you’re in the mood, try tramping it up… you know, fishnet, garters, a lacy push up bra and stilettos. And there’s certainly nothing wrong with opening a bottle of wine and renting a porno to – ahem – get the juices flowing! And if you’re not feeling as fit as you’d like, then by all means start doing some cardio. Not only will it make you healthier, you and hubby will probably find yourselves wanting to spend a lot more time in bed too!

Dreamer’s Response: Thank you for your reply! I feel like you hit the nail right on the head. I had been feeling down because of my insecurities and he noticed. Finally after a few days of him asking me what’s wrong I told him that I was scared of him cheating because he was not sexuality attracted to me. He opened up and said that although he loves me and is truly committed to our marriage vows he is not happy with my weight gain. He says that me being so sedentary during my time off is a turn off and would like me to start working out. He wouldn’t just say that he had a dream to see what I would say. He actually looked worried to admit it which scared me more. He shows me he loves me all the time and after talking to him I know it’s exactly what you said. When it comes to sexual things I’m just not the same person he was attracted to before, I’m different to him. When it’s normal things he’s comfortable because that’s the personality side that he fell in love with. Thanks again for your help! I am working out now and I am starting a new diet!!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It, available everywhere!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I hope you have some kind of idea why my girlfriend (not me) had this dream. It’s not a serious matter (so far), but I am worried my girlfriend is having a bigger problem with my ex or the story around it than I assumed.

A necessary story before I describe her dream:

I fell in love with my girlfriend in mid- March. I was sure she wouldn’t be interested in a relationship. So I left her study town again after a “friends with benefits” weekend” to continue my study stuff.  I had the chance to stay at my ex-gf’s place for two nights but went there with real bad feelings. Well, we had “petting” but I didn’t have sex with her and went to bed. I couldn’t do it with my girlfriend on my mind.

After the weekend, I went back to my girlfriend and told her, with a bad conscience, that I stayed at my ex-gf’s place. I told her that I couldn’t have sex with my ex because I had her in mind the entire time (which is true). I showed her the  text message from my ex, which said, “Is there a reason why we didn’t have sex?” Well, yeah. This should be enough of the pre-story.

Last Wednesday my girlfriend messaged me, while I was in the office, that she felt really “sick” because she dreamt of me and my ex-gf “having fun in bed and I can’t stop thinking about it.” Quote from my girlfriend: “One part of myself is going crazy, screams and wants you to delete her from Facebook, Skype and the other part tells me that’s nonsense, I don’t want to be like that.”

Well, I was kind of shocked… I don’t know what the trigger was (I have no contact with my ex anymore, since my girlfriend and I got together). My ex-gf hurt my feelings especially bad, and I had sexual contact with her while Steph and I had strong feelings for each other — we just hadn’t admitted it to each other yet.  Those are the two things I can think of. But can’t find the link (except for the obvious one: jealousy).

Lauri: The thing about the dreaming mind is that it forces us to be brutally honest with ourselves when the waking mind refuses to be. Your girlfriend’s dream is a clear indication that she is very much bothered by what went down between you and your ex.

The emotions we have when we wake from a dream can be directly connected to those same emotions we have regarding something in our waking life. She is “sick” and upset about it… even though it seems she is trying to be “cool.”   Her dreams aren’t going to let her lie to herself.

Calling you and telling you about the dream is pretty much a call for help. She is hurt and she wants you to make her feel better. Is it really necessary to have a connection to your ex on Skype and Facebook? Give your girlfriend some peace of mind — and better dreams — and delete the ex.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It, available everywhere!

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had this weird dream, it all started with a lot of friends playing a childhood game in the street and all of a sudden it turned out to be an orgy inside the house. It was weird, I felt everything… and the weirdest part was, a celebrity was joining us. The next day I dreamed that me and my sister are in jail for crimes we didn’t commit. The jail wasn’t rough at all, we could even go out to our families, and nice food was provided. Please can you tell me what this all means?

Lauri: The childhood game you are playing in the street may mean that you are going down a childish road in waking life. Are you, or is anyone around you, being childish or immature about something? Are you, or is someone around you, playing head games rather than being upfront and honest?

When dreams suddenly switch scenes, just as your childhood playing turned into an orgy, it is the way your dreaming mind is showing you how one thing has lead to another in waking life. Orgies in dreams are usually connected to confusion and chaos in waking life. Has childish behavior or head games caused you to be confused emotionally or is it leading to a lot of indecision?

The celebrity aspect is interesting — but not knowing who the celebrity is, I can’t give you much insight except to tell you to ask yourself what stands out the most to you about this celebrity. Is it a song? If so, does the title of the song or the lyrics of the song make sense to you in your life right now? Or is it a movie, TV show or character they have played? If so, see if the name of the movie or TV show seems to fit your current situation — or perhaps you identify in some way with the character.

Whatever the case, the following dream where you are in jail for something that you didn’t do suggests you are feeling that you are being treated unfairly by someone in waking life. Even though things aren’t quite as bad as they could be, it seems you still need to find a way to free yourself from the situation.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It, available everywhere!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Howdy. When I have a rare wet dream: in it I’m stroking my erect, yard-long, tree-trunk-girth penis (it takes both hands) for an extended and very pleasurable period of time until orgasm, when I wake up. But in both the dream and in real life, I’m a girl. Background information: I’m very happily married and have absolutely no sexual interest in women, although from time to time do I think about how convenient it would be to have a penis for masturbatory and peeing convenience. I have some kind of sexual intercourse at least once a week and masturbate often (non-penetration, hands and vibrator) for extended periods. Ideally, I’d like to do each at least daily but we lead busy lives. Also, my biggest turn-on when masturbating is watching my husband do the same. Finally, until I met him, I’d rarely masturbate and my only sexual experience was giving head infrequently, but afterwards my diversification and frequency of both solo sex and partner sex increased dramatically, and I’d never had a wet dream until after I met him. So what does it all mean? Actually, I would kind of like to have this dream more often as long as it doesn’t mean something really weird about me.

Lauri: The larger something is in a dream, the more of an issue or influence it is in our waking life. That being said, the giant, honkin’ tree-sized erection that you possess in your dream isn’t so much about a waking desire to be hung like a horse but rather about the enormous amount of assertive, male energy that you seem to possess. Would you say you tend to be “firm” in your beliefs and opinions? Are you happy and eager to “stand up” for yourself and do you rarely “bend” to others needs or demands? If so, all that assertive male energy that you not only possess but utilize is something that pleases you about yourself, which is why you are pleasing yourself in the dream. These waking life qualities are certainly good to have but I almost wonder if your dream is showing us that you may want to work on balancing out your so-called male energy with your female energy. You don’t want to over use one and under use the other. T’is always a good idea to be firm and assertive when you need to but also sweet and nurturing when you want to. In addition, your male, assertive qualities may also contribute to – what seems to be – an aversion to being penetrated as well as your thoughts about how much more convenient a penis would be when masturbating. I’d probably have to differ with you on the convenience factor. I mean… seems to me that a penis just creates more of a mess when you’re done, no?

Dreamer’s Response: That bit about assertion is very true about me, I am an extremely assertive person, maybe because I have more testosterone than the typical female (lots of body hair, sometimes inconveniently, for example). In my interactions with others in situations where authority is called for I have no difficulty in wielding that and am very demanding in getting my expectations met, and when I want something I am not shy about pursuing it. However, I’m also very girly-girl in other ways — I love playing with clothes and makeup and if it were possible I would want to have a lot of children and enjoy being around them. But I think your interpretation is plausible in that, given my circumstances, I find I do have to play the assertive role more often than I would like.

You assume correctly that sexually I don’t get much out of penetration. I don’t often have vaginal- or anal-induced orgasms, but on the other end my husband gets a lot out of both places and that is very psychologically rewarding for me. My clitoris is “Old Faithful” and my husband doesn’t get upset at all with, and in fact encourages, my masturbation of it before and/or after he enters me (although he’s been known to lend a hand or something else to save batteries). I agree about the mess afterwards for guys (which both  intrigues and repels me), and then there’s the multiple vs. single orgasm tradeoff. But I sure like the idea of the much larger surface area! And the peeing part of it would be so much more convenient. If only we could have the best of both!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s book Dream On It, available everywhere!

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’ve been dreaming about the possibility of being gay or I am gay. I had a dream today about one of my former closest friends. We were on a bed. She was naked, I was wearing a bra and my undies and pants. We were talking and next thing I was asleep. I woke up and she was on top of me. Next thing she is telling me to move so she can? I look down and my pants are half-way down my hips. I pull them back up and fasten them. I tell her, I love you but not this way. Then I kiss her head. The dream changes after this. Why am I dreaming this kind of stuff. I truly am not gay.

Lauri: Having a girl-on-girl dream does not mean you are gay. If that were the case, not a single one of us would be heterosexual! It’s important to remember, and I believe I say this in every column, that you can’t look at your dreams literally, because you will never get the message that way. Dreams are symbolic, they are metaphors for what is going on in your life and within you.

With that in mind, I believe this dream is either about a power struggle you are currently having in some area of your life, or it is about a power struggle within that former friendship. How so? The dream starts out where you are the one “wearing the pants,” meaning the one in charge. Then you wake up and she is on top seemingly in the process of pulling your pants down. In other words, you must have had a sudden awakening or realization in real life that she is trying to change the relationship where she is “above you” so that you are no longer the one wearing the pants.

Kissing her on the head is not unlike giving her the “kiss off” in real life because you don’t care for that sort of power struggle. Does this sound like what happened with your relationship? If so, then your dream is helping you to better understand why you are no longer friends. If not, then ask yourself what other relationship in your life seems to fit this description.

It is also possible that this could be about a power struggle within yourself and your former friend would then represent the part of you that wants to open up and be honest about something (since she is naked in the dream). Whatever the case, the part of you that likes to be in charge is the winner. Good job!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s new book Dream On It, available everywhere!

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Been having the strangest dream: I’m a man, 30+, been married for 6 years, and have been having the strangest dreams: My wife and I are getting intimate and suddenly I go down on her and she has a penis and I begin to perform oral sex. This dream has occurred twice: one where we are in bed, and another where we are in a bath tub. Weird.

Lauri: Unlike Freud’s take on the topic, not everything in our dreams is about sex. Heck, even genitals in dreams aren’t really about our genitals!  Instead, genitalia, to the dreaming mind, actually represents one’s male or female energy. That being said, it might bring you comfort to know that your wife’s penis in this dream is most likely representative of her male assertive energy. Has she taken charge in some way in waking life? Is she “standing up” for herself… ahem? The oral aspect of this dream most likely has to do with communication because – like oral – it is the mouth that is used to communicate. Have you encouraged your wife to “man up” in some capacity?  I also think the location of the oral sex is significant. The bed may suggest that there is something that needs to be “put to rest” and the bath tub suggests there is something that she needs to cleanse herself of… and being assertive and taking action on it is what it takes to get the “job” (get it?) done.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! Don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site. And check out Lauri’s new book Dream On It, available everywhere!