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How to Bridge the Erotic Chasm in a Sexless Marriage

by Dr. Margaret Paul for YourTango Don’t give up. Research indicates that over 55 percent of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire in the marriage […]

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The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

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How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate

Okay, before we tell you how to ejaculate, we have to set a couple things straight: First, yes, women can ejaculate. Next: no, not all women ejaculate. So if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly. The last thing we mean to do is […]

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10 Absolute MUSTS for Being a Great Lover

by Judith Orloff for YourTango Want to learn how to manifest your full sexual power, even if you are out of touch with it now? First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind chatter and drift is the […]

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10 Steps to Surving a Holiday Dinner with Family Who Voted for Trump

This post was updated from the original: “#Trumpsgiving” Chances are you’ll have to spend this holiday break with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together, hole up in your house, and binge watch some light fare like “The Walking Dead.” But if for some […]

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10 “Sexy” Gifts That Will Get You Dumped This Xmas

And 10 That Won’t! You want  to give the object of your affection a gift that expresses your genuine love and sincere lust? Wonderful! But please understand there’s a fine line between sexy and stupid, and that line often moves depending on the couple and each partner’s level of kinkiness, their sense of humor, and their, well, stupidity. […]

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13 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Single

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for the holidays this year? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for […]

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How to Make Massage the Perfect Holiday Gift

Learning to massage is the perfect romantic holiday gift for your partner. After a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together and get extra close with a little back rub? You both deserve this! But a five minute neckrub isn’t going to cut it for Xmas. So below, we’ve outlined our 3-step suggestion for elevating massage […]

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The 5 Keys to Heartbreak-Free Couple Fighting

By the Gottman Institute’s Kyle Benson for YourTango Your future together can be bright even if your disagreements tend to be very negative. Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of […]

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5 Quick Ways to Make Quickies More Satisfying

Sometimes with sex, you’ve just got to get the job done fast. But just because you’re short on time doesn’t mean you have to be short on pleasure. So here are 5 ways not to skimp. Let’s make this quick! 1. Use lube. It’s not cheating, it’s just helping along the arousal process! 2. Accessorize […]

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The 3 (Non-Sexual) Keys to a Great (Sexual) Relationship

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: My best advice for lighting the fire: communication, understanding, and acceptance. The man […]

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A 60-Second Master Class in the Subtle Art of Non-Cheesy Dirty Talk

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: Best tip? Easy. Read. Read to her. Read to her in bed and […]

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10 Novel Ways to Ignite Your Relationship (from Readers!)

We asked readers to give us their single best tip for lighting up their love life, and we got a lot of inspiring answers. So many in fact, that we’re not just going to publish the 5 big winners of the 5  Wildfire Pleasure Oil Prize Packages, we’re going to publish the top 7 runners up […]

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#TRUMPSGIVING: How to Survive Thanksgiving with Family Members Who Voted for Trump

Chances are you’ll have to spend Thanksgiving with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together; after all, what the pluck is there to be thankful for? But if for some reason you’d like to remain on speaking terms with the relatives who helped […]

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8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

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10 Ways You Can Join the Rebel Alliance & Fight the Galactic Empire!

We went to a “Post-Election Reproductive Justice Strategizing Meeting/Potluck” at our local Planned Parenthood last night (the theme: These. Doors. Stay. Open.) It was packed! Wall-to-wall nasty women plus a few (not enough) bad  hombres ready to roll up their sleeves and get to work. Even the spread of community contributions was impressive: olives, nice cheese & crackers, veggie […]