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5 Ways to Beat the Green-Eyed Monster

Here are our top 5 tips for vanquishing the green-eyed monster. Or at least making friends with it. 1. Date within your own jealousy league.  We know this is hard to control — chemistry being what it is — but your best bet is to date someone whose jealousy meter is about equivalent to yours. For […]

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6 Key Steps to Finding (or Improving) Love

Katie and Gay Hendricks for YourTango.com You’re going about it all wrong. Ladies and gentlemen, if you’re aching to find love this year, forget about “conquering” the dating scene. And if you want to dramatically improve your relationship, here’s our surprising advice: Forget about trying to make your relationship better! Why? Because complaining that there are no good people out […]

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Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – NON-Monogamous

We ran the lighthearted post called “Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous” as encouragement for those people who choose to be in exclusive, long-term relationships. Some readers took it as an indictment of non-monogamy, which wasn’t our intention at all. To prove it to you, here are 10 points in favor of the other […]

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Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous

Monogamy gets a bad rap these days — people say it’s unnatural, impossible, outdated, stifling. And, yes, sometimes it is! Especially if your wedding anniversary now contains two digits. But anything worth fighting for will usually put you through the ringer, and monogamy is no exception. So before your partner’s bad habits drive you to […]

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Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

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10 Clues You’re Dating a Keeper

Here are a few questions to ask yourself about the person you’re dating before offering them a permanent position. Three strikes is forgivable (otherwise neither of us would pass our own test), four is a bit sketchy, and as for five or more…don’t make us say “we told you so.” 1. Are you the center […]

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10 Tips for Hosting a Sexy Sleepover

If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be entertaining that evening. […]

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5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Dear Em & Lo,  I like this man so much. But I called him my ex’s name when he was going down on me and I wasn’t even thinking of my ex or anything! I was with my ex for 2 years and this guy 3 months. I’m done with my ex but the new […]

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How to Watch “The Bachelor” with Your Wife or Girlfriend 

The start of the 4,532nd season of The Bachelor means my wife has reinstated her ongoing Bachelor viewing parties with some of her female friends. Rather than rolling my eyes and hiding out in my non-existent mancave, I crack a beer and settle in next to her on our couch…because I love my wife, because […]

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How to Negotiate a Night of Casual Sex

It’s called a “prenook” — and if you’re interested in casual sex,  you should get one.  We have nothing against casual sex so long as everyone is being safe and the casual nature of the sex is completely mutual. And “mutual” is where things get tricky. May we introduce you to the concept of a […]