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15 Things You Can Change About Your Sex Life

A few weeks back, we told you about six things you can’t change about your sex life, and we encouraged an attitude of serenity and acceptance. But luckily there are plenty of things that you can change about your sex life, too! Here are fifteen to get you started… 1. Your sexual IQ. Bodies don’t come […]

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Why You Should Be Polyamorous…With Your Best Friends

I have multiple besties and they all make up the one big best friend of my dreams. Generally, I’m a fairly easy-going person. My life has taught me it’s best to expect less of the people I love than to set my ideals so high that they cannot be met. I know that kind of […]

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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm (Except in This One Case)

Faking, Defined Every woman has faked an O at least once in her lifetime. Pretending to climax is a theatrical art — one that even thespian Keanu Reeves would find challenging to pull off convincingly. There’s a healthy dose of heavy breathing with much melodramatic “oohing” and “ahhing” sprinkled throughout (all informed by porn and “When […]

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10 Ways to Be Less Competitive with Other Women

Why are women competitive with each other? Evolutionary psychology says that it’s to protect their wombs from physical harm, while feminist psychology claims it’s because they’ve internalized the patriarchy. A writer in the Times this past weekend posited a different explanation: “We aren’t competing with other women, ultimately, but with ourselves — with how we […]

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5 Great Date Ideas That Don’t Require Drinking

By Jarone Ashkenazi for YourTango With fun dates likes these, who needs liquid courage? Where should you go on your first date with someone new? That’s the dreaded decisions daters across the world face. Daters want to pick a place that sets the right mood, plays to your’s or your date’s interests, and creates fun memories. You want to show your […]

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6 Things You Can’t Change About Sex

Did you know that the Serenity Prayer can be applied to your sex life? (“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”) Well, here are the six things about sex that you cannot change — accepting […]

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The 8 Do’s and Don’ts of Opening Up Your Relationship

Dr. Alan, a psychologist specializing in human behavior, describes himself as educated beyond his competence and opinionated beyond his education. Besides being an MVP commenter on EMandLO.com, he is currently working on a book about how increased healthy life expectancy will influence family structure.   Should you open up your relationship? Truthfully, probably not. Simply fantasizing or role playing about opening […]

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How to Have Sex with a Vampire

1. Get your blood work done beforehand and make sure you bring condoms: while the undead can’t give you any STDs, infections you might have (especially blood-borne infections) can make for an unpleasant experience for your vampire.* 2. Don’t eat any garlic for at least 72 hours beforehand. 3. Don’t give blood for at least […]

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6 Easy Ways to Tell If Your Guy Has Commitment Issues

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango You’ve fallen, but he’s still overlooking the drop. At the core of so many failed relationships is one simple thing: balance. Or rather, the lack thereof. How many relationships have ended because one partner wanted more or less sex than the other? Or because one person didn’t seem to care as much […]

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How These 8 Preschool Skills Can Improve Your Love Life

A recent article in the Times explained why the social and sharing skills that you learn in preschool help you succeed in the workplace — and probably more so than any of the test-taking skills you learn later on in your school life. Reading that piece, we realized that the exact same thing could be […]