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How to Get Over a Breakup When YOU Did the Dumping

by Chelli Pumphrey for YourTango Don’t beat yourself up over breaking up! Sometimes a breakup can a slow, shaky, untangling of two lives, like a sticky cobweb wrapped around your fingers. You just can’t shake it off. Sometimes a breakup is quick, deep cut, and you’re left reeling from the sudden pain and shock. It rarely ends painlessly, and can often be […]

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8 Ways to Tell If You’re in a Healthy Place on the Jealousy Spectrum

Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either. What counts as jealous behavior to one person might be viewed as sweetly protective by another. And what counts as a pleasing lack of jealousy to one person might be viewed as indifference by another. Similarly, what might be viewed as an […]

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The Best Sex Tips from a Stand-Up Comic

by Michael Hollan A lot of people think that stand-up comics must get laid a lot. Well, no. Most stand-up comics are pulling in normal numbers. People think that because we perform, and are funny and always meeting new people that we must live like rock stars. Nope, we live like traveling salesmen. It’s not […]

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10 Steps to Getting Casual Sex Right

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!) […]

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6 Ways to Stimulate Your Senses During Sex

1. Wear a Blindfold You could light some candles or twist in a red lightbulb to alter the visuals. But the most dramatic thing you can do with your sight is to turn it off. In doing so, all your other senses will be enhanced: you’ll hear your own breathing, taste the salty-sweet sweat of your […]

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7 Kinds of Porn Your Guy Probably Watches (and Deletes from His Browser History)

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango Let’s just say we delete a LOT of browser history. We live in a gilded age — a time in which pornography flows freely and unimpeded thanks to the internet. Now, any desire can instantly be fulfilled via 1080p stream in the comfort of your own home. Whether you close the […]

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5 Super Nice Ways to Say “You’re Not Good in Bed”

Sex is so easy, even chickens with pea-sized brains can do it. (Speaking of: If you’re looking for a hilarious and enlightening post about how, exactly, chickens do it, go here. You’re welcome. Em has a coop in her backyard with eleven hens and one very lucky rooster, and even she learned something.) But if sex is […]

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When Anger Is Helpful in a Relationship…And When It’s Not

Count to ten before you speak, we’re often told, especially when fighting with a partner. Take a deep breath and remember you’re talking to someone you love, the advice goes. Being angry means you’ve lost control, the theory goes. But is there ever a time when you shouldn’t count to ten — when a little anger […]

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How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

We’ve been in the magazine business for more than fifteen years, and we are still suckers for those stupid headlines like “537 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life TONIGHT!” We just can’t help flipping to that article while we’re stuck in the check-out line. What if just one of those “guaranteed” 537 tips is neither ridiculous […]

Books
5 Terms Every Parent Should Add to Their Sex-Ed Vocabulary

Cory Silverberg is elevating in-home sex-ed to an art form, one kick-ass book at a time. His first kids’ book on reproduction, called WHAT MAKES A BABY (for preschoolers through 2nd-graders), combines inclusive language, helpful descriptions, and bright, bold and beautiful illustrations by Fiona Smyth (that get us all nostalgic for “Free to Be You and Me“) […]