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Planned Parenthood’s 3 Ways for Protesting the New Repeal Proposal

The following is from Planned Parenthood Action Fund: New healthcare attack, same plan. House Republicans just took a bad bill that would result in 24 million people losing their insurance and actually made it worse. The latest Republican repeal proposal eliminates key protections for Americans, including protections for people with pre-existing conditions. It also continues […]

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Intro to Anal: How to Give It, Get It & Go Gaga for It

With the rise in popularity in Anal Dating, many couples are looking at anal as a way to spice up their sex life. However, there are still a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. It’s not pleasurable for her. Being receptive is only for gay guys. Everyone’s doing it […]

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How to Put on a Condom (A 12-Point Refresher Course with Video)

  April is STD Awareness Month! Consistent and correct condom use reduces the risk of HIV transmission by as much as 10,000 times (the studies that reported the HIV virus leaking through latex were done using particles 100 million times smaller than the HIV found in semen). And while condoms admittedly do not cover all […]

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How to Use Tinder — A Complete Guide

There’s always a first time for everything. Tinder is a popular (if not the most popular) dating app that matches adults based on their Facebook profiles and locations, allowing mutually interested parties to chat anonymously (until, perhaps, they decide to exchange phone numbers and/or meet up for coffee or casual sex). Though it’s often criticized as […]

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How to Increase Your Chances for Multiple Orgasms

According to Carlyle Jansen of the Toronto-based sexuality shop Good for Her, multiple orgasms are well within your reach! Check out her expert advice for LELO.com on achieving multiple orgasms below. Are you a one-hit wonder when it comes to clitoral orgasms?  Do you, like many of us, experience the intense and sudden post-orgasm “Don’t touch me!” […]

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How to Deal with Late-Life Virginity

The following advice has been updated: Get yourself a therapist. If you do nothing else, do this. You’ve got some issues that you need to work through — trying to resolve them on internet forums won’t work. If you’re insurance covers therapy, then you’ve got no excuse — carve out the time and commit to this. […]

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Top 20 Ways NOT to Kiss (VIDEO)

Sometimes it’s easier to impart sexual technique by focusing on what NOT to do — especially when it comes to something as variable as kissing, where there are so many different styles, techniques and preferences that many people enjoy. So by focusing on the negative — the things almost all people DON’T enjoy — we […]

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8 Short Poems Hot Enough to Sext Tonight

Happy World Poetry Day! (March 21st) A few years ago, then U.K. Education Secretary Michael Gove got teased mercilessly all over the Internets for his suggestion that teenagers should text amorous poetry to each other instead of nude pics. There’s an even an app for it! The Love Book App not only has celebrities reading sexy snippets (we […]

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10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator (VIDEO)

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

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VIDEO: 7 Steps to Gender Equality…IN THE BEDROOM!

  View & share video via YouTube HERE Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby! But we’ve got a hell of a long way to go: In 2014 the World […]

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5 New Things to Try in Bed on Valentine’s Night

We know that it’s pretty traditional on Valentine’s Day to share a candle-lit dinner which concludes with some kind of dessert involving chocolate and strawberries, and then you go home for face-holding, teary-eyed sex together. Well, in case you hadn’t noticed, we’re not exactly the traditional type around here. So here are five better ways […]

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A Buttload of Romantic Valentine’s Ideas That Won’t Break the Bank (Or Crush Your Soul)

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub. Between now and Valentine’s day, you’ll get their Foot Massage Tutorial FREE when you buy their video massage guide — the perfect […]

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10 Reasons to Become a Submissive (If Only for a Night)

  1. You want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities. 2. You’ve been with your partner for a while and things are getting a little routine. 3. You kinda like being held down and tickled. 4. You’ve thought about downloading our incredibly affordable book, “150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink.” 5. […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Trump’s First Week in Office)

The cast of The Bachelor left the freezing cold of Waukesha, Wisconsin — hometown of Nick and the two little girls who stabbed their best friend 19 times in a delusional Slenderman ritual — and traveled to the swamps of New Orleans to continue their journey to find out how long their hair extensions could hold up […]

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10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

Two articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at EMandLO.com — inability to get over […]

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Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]