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How to Truly Love Someone Unconditionally

by Michelle Brock for YourTango Is it even possible to find unconditional love? Unconditional love. A love that comes without any conditions, expectations, constraints, or parameters; a love that just IS. A love that is so perfect and so pure that it’s given freely – no matter what. Does it exist? And if it does, is it possible to practice in […]

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5 Ways to Stay “Koselig” If You’re SINGLE This Winter

Last week we introduced you to the awesome Norwegian word koselig, which means a sense of coziness. According to a Fast Company article, koselig is “like the best parts of Christmas, without all the stress. People light candles, light fires, drink warm beverages, and sit under fuzzy blankets.” And according to recent research by a Stanford […]

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How to Avoid “Boyfriend Pedestal Syndrome” (and Save Your Relationship)

by Tristan Coopersmith for YourTango Date him, don’t praise him like a god. I know the case of the pedestal boyfriend all too well. Looking in my own rear-view mirror, I’ve put a lot of guys up on this platform — this very grand, very tall, very lavish untouchable platform, worshipping them for all that […]

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5 Signs He Doesn’t Like You as Much as You Like Him

By Kelly P. Crossing for YourTango You’re dating this cute guy. He’s a real charmer. You like him — a lot. But then you have a disturbing thought when you’re apart: what if you like him more than he likes you?  You want to find out (no, you need to find out), because the answer to your predicament can mean the difference […]

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How Much Should You Google a New Partner?

Sure, sure, we know — everyone does it, it’s not just you. But would it be better for your relationships if you didn’t? And at what point in a relationship is it no longer weird to admit to someone that you Googled them? Also, how deep should you Google? For example, is it too psycho […]

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5 Ways to Address Waning Sex in a Relationship

Today’s Comment of the Week comes from two different readers who had such wise advice on the topic of one partner’s decreasing libido in a fairly new relationship, we combined them into a top 5 list!:  [From “J”] It is normal for passion and sex to decrease as a relationship progresses. Our bodies and brains […]

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13 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Single

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for the holidays this year? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for […]

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Can I Ask My Boyfriend for an Open Relationship While He’s in the Navy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em  & Lo, I am a very […]

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Wise Guys: What’s the Appeal of Bare Down There?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What is the appeal (or not) of a woman who’s completely bare down there?” Click here to ask the guys your own question. Straight Married Guy (Mike): I grew up in a world of topshelf Playboy (and god forbid) Penthouse magazines. In Playboy, […]

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A Self-Aware Narcissist Explains How to Love Her, Faults and All

We’re not as bad as you think. I don’t know when I became a self-aware narcissist. I mean, I probably was always the narcissist part, but the self-aware bit came one day when I said something self-deprecating and someone told me not to be so hard on myself. My response was, “My self-deprecation is just […]