Advice
Your Call
Your Call: My Husband Doesn’t Go Down on Me Anymore

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving […]

How To
Are You About to Cheat? Here Are 10 Big Warning Signs

You may be about to cheat on your partner and you don’t even know it. If TV and film and radio and books are any indications, over 135 percent of people are having affairs as we speak. (It should be noted that I only watch the Showtime program The Affair.) Between the broadening definition of “emotional infidelity” and the […]

How To
Why Do Men Masturbate? How Do Men Masturbate Well?

Despite centuries of demonization through shame and accusations of mental infirmity (as well as some fairly inventive purported outcomes, from hairy palms to blindness), we now accept that men masturbate and that not only is it normal, it’s actually healthy for you. And while sex educators are helping break down the stigma around self-pleasure, there are many […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HER

Cunnilingus is one of the most daunting sexual tasks a person can undertake. It’s one of those unfair facts of life: there’s much more variation in what “works” among the gals than the guys, so there’s no sequence of moves guaranteed to result in her orgasm. But don’t think of her orgasm as being high-maintenance; […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HIM

Plenty of people hesitate to go down on a man, either because they’re insecure about their skills or they just don’t enjoy it. But many, many guys would give their non-dominant arm for a regular dose of oral — a lot of them would even choose it over intercourse. (Though, despite conventional wisdom, there are a […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This time, a woman finds herself married to a selfish lover. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  […]

Advice
Why ALL Women Should Masturbate (Even When They’re in a Relationship)

We once met a woman who claimed (quite proudly, we might add), “I’ve always had dick, so I don’t need to masturbate.” Our eyes bulged, our jaws dropped, our ears began to bleed a little. How could she utter such scandalous words in the 21st century? Women should masturbate! We tried desperately to explain that […]

How To
10 Steps for the Perfect Father’s Day Massage

The following is a low input, high impact Father’s Day plan, especially for those of you who haven’t done shit yet for this Sunday (yes, Dad’s Day is THIS weekend!). With a little finagling, you can prepare a relaxing, pampering evening for the father-fella in your life that he won’t soon forget! 1. Set the […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming My Husband Marries Other Women

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Hi, I have a weird dream: sometimes it’s my husband marrying somebody else and […]

How To
6 Rules for Outdoor Sex (Video)

Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun — is there anything more all-American worth celebrating this July 4th? But it’s not all fun and […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, His Big Penis Caused Pain, Bleeding & Cramps – Help!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I had sex last night with a man who had a larger penis […]

Confessions
Can You Guess Which of These Cats Is Female?

A choose your own gender-venture! Our family recently adopted two kittens. We had our pick of the litter, so we figured we’d get a girl and a boy, just like our two kids. They decided to name the girl Rey and the boy Po. (Star Wars fans relax: for whatever reason — let’s call it artistic license — […]

How To
Relax, Then Do It! How to Decompress for Better Sex

Good sex is no endeavor for the weary — especially, it must be said, for the women among us. Alas, the world — a frenetic, kinetic, frantic, and frenzied place — often makes you so. Your senses are bombarded daily by unpleasantries (can you say rush hour commute?), so you’ve got to take care to heal […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Sex on a 1st Date Really Ruin Your Chances at a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m a 25-year-old woman who enjoys sex. I […]

How To
10 Requirements for a Sexy Bedroom (Video)

In case your bedroom has been a little worse for wear lately, here’s a quick reminder of the basics of bedroom beautification. Because a beautiful bedroom is much nicer/more inspiring/less psychically distracting to make beautiful music in. Invest in sheets with a decent thread count — there’s nothing sexy about your bare skin against the equivalent […]

How To
The 8 Rules of Dating a Single Dad

Not too long ago I read an article titled “How to Love a Single Mom.” The author wrote that the intention of her piece was to support “the man interested in a woman with children. To offer him a peek inside her life, to help him understand her better.” And then she listed 5 tips: Be […]