How To
How to Masturbate with Style (If You’re a Man)

Masturbation should always be your bit on the side, whether you haven’t got laid in months; or you’re juggling two booty call partners and still finding time for the occasional one-night-stand; or you’ve finally decided to settle down. It’s not just a consolation prize for the lonely hearts. It’s not cheating on your partner, and […]

How To
How to Masturbate (If You’re a Woman)

Women don’t always climax during intercourse, but they almost always do during masturbation. At least, if they’re prepared to put in a bit of practice, they do. The first orgasm is usually the hardest to achieve. It may also be mild and fleeting, but it gets way better. And once a woman has orgasmed on […]

Wise Guys
My Boyfriend Ogles Other Women But Is Jealous When I Look at Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My boyfriend claims it means nothing when he looks at other women, and yet he gets jealous when I look at other men. Why is that?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of […]

How To
3 Reasons Why YOU Should Take Charge of Your Kids’ Sex Ed

If your goal is to raise confused and ashamed kids, then go ahead and skip “The Talk.” Our kids’ sex education begins the moment they tune into the world around them. Numerous gateways introduce them to our highly sexualized society: smartphones, tablets, laptops, television, supermarket tabloids, and sometimes our own jokes and language. With so […]

Dream Interpretation
How Can I Stop Dreaming About My Abusive Ex?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I dreamed about my ex-boyfriend today. I […]

How To
7 Ways EVERYONE Can Be More Chivalrous (Without Being Sexist)

Treating each other well is a practice BOTH sexes should embrace! When was the last time you felt completely appreciated — the kind of appreciation that leaves no doubt about how fully gorgeous/handsome, dating someone who makes you feel like that (deeply appreciated) is incredibly special … and arousing. And sorry, today’s “no emotions involved,” hit-it-and-quit-it “hook […]

How To
10 Myths About Labia Debunked

Pity the poor labia — they’re more hated on than the Kardashian sisters. Here we debunk ten commons myths about them, to help you the love the labia in your life a little more. MYTH #1: Most women have a matching pair. FACT: Most women have different sized labia — exact symmetry is rare in nature — […]

Your Call
We Opened Our Relationship But I’m Unsure of the Rules

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I just finished reading […]

How To
Oral Sex Etiquette: 12 Golden Rules for Going Down

The following list of tips is intended for both women and men: The golden rule of manners as it pertains to dining downtown is this: consider it the equivalent of a free meal at a Gordon Ramsay restaurant. It’s a sheer delight simply to be there! So act like it. When the best chefs in […]

Dear Em & Lo
Can I Cheat on My Husband While He’s Abroad?

Dear Em & Lo, I read your articles, and you give great advice to other readers, so maybe you can help me! My husband lives in another country; he’s in the process of coming over here, but we aren’t even sure when! We have been apart for a year already, and we’ve been married for […]