Wise Guys
Do Men Appreciate Directions When They’re Going Down on a Woman?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you feel about being given directions while you’re going downtown? Do you appreciate instructions on what works for that particular woman, or do you feel like it’s backseat driving, or that you’re just a tool or a servant? Is there […]

How To
Sex After Miscarriage: 5 Things Women Wish Their Partners Knew

Tara Shafer is the co-founder of, an online resource center to help people cope with pregnancy and infant loss, which includes gift subscriptions to offer friends in times of need. One of the many social taboos that surround miscarriage and its wake is the issue of sex after loss. It is difficult for the […]

How To
5 Ways to Show Your Appreciation to Your Partner

Last week we published an article by YourTango explaining how to resuscitate your relationship after a bout of infidelity. The solution? You have to truly — and verbally — appreciate your partner. Like, a lot. But why wait for an affair to do this? In fact, appreciating your partner on a daily basis is a […]

Your Call
If You Snoop and Find Something, Is the Snooping Justified?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I know it’s wrong […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Make Masturbation with a Vibrator Feel Less Lonely

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 24-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in 4 years, 10 months, 15 days, 5 hours, 51 minutes…well, you get the idea. I had my first boyfriend when I was twenty and it lasted for four months. He was my first sexual partner, and as of today, my last. I […]

How To
How to Win Back Your Partner After Cheating on Them

by Tammy Nelson for YourTango You may have noticed that not feeling appreciated was a big issue for both of you long before the infidelity—this is more common in couples than you might think. When we meet a man for the first time, one of the first things we ask is what they do for a […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt I Had Sex with Frank N. Furter

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I recently had a dream that I was having […]

How To
How to Be a Cool Mom (and Not a “Cool Mom”)

A recent article in the New York Times discussed the trend of so-called “cool moms” joining in their daughters’ debauched bachelorette parties — drunken trips to male strip clubs in Vegas included. According to the Times: Mothers like Ms. Rosenberg and Ms. Maffucci said they wanted to be included because they have completely different relationships with their […]

How To
6 Quick Tips for Casual Morning Sex

Sex at daybreak (or, if you’re a freelancer, just before noon) isn’t just for newlyweds or long-term couples who happen to be morning people. Sometimes it can work in casual situations, too — in fact, sometimes it’s even better in a casual situation because you haven’t known each other long enough to get truly annoyed […]

Wise Guys
What Does Bad Sex Look Like (According to Guys)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the definition of bad sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): Good sex is a function of the physical and the mental. For women, the mental part may be much more about nurturing and safety, or so I’ve read. For men, I would […]