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The 5 Worst Places to Learn About Sex…and the 5 Best!

by Sarah Marcantonio THE WORST 1. The Movies Most sex scenes in mainstream movies ain’t exactly cinéma vérité:  the male lead sweeps the girl off her feet and whisks her away to bed, clothes fall away, abs are sculpted, sweat glistens, birth control is abandoned, discussions about sexual health histories are never had, and simultaneous orgasms apparently grow […]

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Dr. Kate, Are My Excruciating Menstrual Cramps Normal?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I have a question about cramp severity. I’ve noticed that (for most women) […]

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10 Fun Sexts to Send!

By Emily Ratay for YourTango Sex is supposed to be fun. The more at ease you can be with your partner (or partners) about sex, the better it is. Rather than worrying about embarrassing yourself, you can just laugh off any unsmooth moves together. Crack jokes, be lighthearted — that helps make sex a less taboo topic. Aside from actually doing the […]

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Dear Em & Lo, How Can I Get Back at My Boyfriend for Dumping Me So Cruelly?

Dear Em & Lo, I thought my boyfriend and I had a good relationship: we lived together, I took care of him, I took care of everything.  He said no one took care of him like I did, even though he’d had plenty of women before me. I thought we were happy. But he found […]

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8 Potty Habits That Will Improve Your Sex Life

Let’s talk about poop, baby — the most ordinary of bodily functions, yet the one most mired in shame and lame Freudian stages. We’re all victims of evolution’s big cosmic joke: the placement of the body’s waste disposal system right next to its biggest pleasure receptors. No wonder sex is often considered dirty! One of the keys to great […]

Dream Interpretation
How to Keep an Abusive Ex Boyfriend Out of Your Dreams and Nightmares

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Hi, I was just wondering if you can send some strong advice my […]

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What Your Date’s Starbucks Order Says About Your Relationship

Look at the drink the person you’re dating orders when the two of you go to Starbucks together. I’m absolutely serious. Their Starbucks drink order can be all the information you need to figure out if they like you and if you’ve attracted the soulmate of your dreams.   1. If they order the same thing as […]

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Your Call: What Position Should Little Ol’ Me Use with My Big Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hello. I’m hoping you can help me with […]

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Planned Parenthood’s 3 Ways for Protesting the New Repeal Proposal

The following is from Planned Parenthood Action Fund: New healthcare attack, same plan. House Republicans just took a bad bill that would result in 24 million people losing their insurance and actually made it worse. The latest Republican repeal proposal eliminates key protections for Americans, including protections for people with pre-existing conditions. It also continues […]

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Dear Em & Lo, What Books Are a Good Intro to Open Relationships?

Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife,  on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]

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Intro to Anal: How to Give It, Get It & Go Gaga for It

There are a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. It’s not pleasurable for her. Being receptive is only for gay guys. Everyone’s doing it apart from you. There’s no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth. These sex myths are demonstrably untrue; all they do is […]

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Dear Em & Lo, I Love Him But He’s Already Got a Girlfriend

Hi, I would like advice. I am single mother and I met someone on a dating website. When we met he told me he didn’t have a girlfriend. After a while, we were emailing each other every day. After 6 months, I finally met him face to face and we liked each other. But then he started telling […]

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How to Put on a Condom (A 12-Point Refresher Course with Video)

  April is STD Awareness Month! Consistent and correct condom use reduces the risk of HIV transmission by as much as 10,000 times (the studies that reported the HIV virus leaking through latex were done using particles 100 million times smaller than the HIV found in semen). And while condoms admittedly do not cover all […]

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Your Call: What’s a Good Sex Toy to Get My Girlfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My girlfriend doesn’t own any sex toys. I’m […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt of Hot Sex with an Ex I Haven’t Been with in 5 Years

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I was in a darker room with shades of black and red, on a large […]

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How to Use Tinder — A Complete Guide

There’s always a first time for everything. Tinder is a popular (if not the most popular) dating app that matches adults based on their Facebook profiles and locations, allowing mutually interested parties to chat anonymously (until, perhaps, they decide to exchange phone numbers and/or meet up for coffee or casual sex). Though it’s often criticized as […]