Wise Guys
What Does Bad Sex Look Like (According to Guys)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the definition of bad sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): Good sex is a function of the physical and the mental. For women, the mental part may be much more about nurturing and safety, or so I’ve read. For men, I would […]

How To
The 5 Necessary Steps for Getting a Pickup Artist to Commit

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: If you really like someone you suspect is a pickup artist – and that’s a decision you may re-evaluate now that I’ve lifted the veil for you – here’s what it takes for a woman to lock down a PUA: […]

Comment of the Week
8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]

Your Call
Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Help Your Vagina Taste and Smell Better

Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I have been been sexually active with one another for five years.  I’ve been smoking cigarettes for four years. I slowed down dramatically when I got pregnant in 2007 (from needing my own pack to two cigarettes a day or none at all). My husband didn’t know about […]

How To
How to Choose a Spouse Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

by Christine Schoenwald for YourTango Could your perfect guy already be in your life?  Do you know what Myers-Briggs personality type you are? You could be a ENFJ or a ISTJ — and if you do know what you are, do you know which type is best for you? The test, known as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, categorizes people into […]

Wise Guys
Do Straight Guys Imagine Having Sex with Every Woman They See?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he’d want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his masturbatory fantasies?” Straight […]

The Key to Understanding Bad Boys: They’re Narcissists

Bad boys — and bad girls — are sexy, alluring, intense, and challenging. They draw you in, and then inevitably push you away. Trying to earn their love and approval can become addictive. But it’s a losing game. Because, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, they’re often unhealthy narcissists who, by definition, can’t — or at […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Kaitlyn’s Finale)

We always get a little case of the post-Bachelor/ette blues when a season comes to an end. Over the course of 3 months, we’ve learned so much about love and lust, what to do, what not to do, who to do, who not to do… At least we have less than a week until “Bachelor […]

How To
10 Quick Tips for Sleeping with a Coworker

Considering how much time many of us spend at the office these days, dipping your pen in the company inkwell is just a matter of convenience dating: you share similar schedules, have built in references, and already have something in common. So here are our top ten tips for office nookie: Don’t sleep with anyone above […]