How To
6 Ways to Stimulate Your Senses During Sex

1. Wear a Blindfold You could light some candles or twist in a red lightbulb to alter the visuals. But the most dramatic thing you can do with your sight is to turn it off. In doing so, all your other senses will be enhanced: you’ll hear your own breathing, taste the salty-sweet sweat of your […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Libido Makes Me Sleep with Mr. Wrong

Dear Em & Lo, I feel like I’m stuck right now. I meet plenty of young men that are very interesting, and eventually, after spending some time with them, I get attached. Something that sounds very normal but turns out to be very painful in the end. So here’s my problem: no matter how hard […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Like to Spank in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys like to spank their partners in bed?” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I really took one for the team here. In the interest of sexual science and sound advice, I carried out […]

How To
7 Kinds of Porn Your Guy Probably Watches (and Deletes from His Browser History)

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango Let’s just say we delete a LOT of browser history. We live in a gilded age — a time in which pornography flows freely and unimpeded thanks to the internet. Now, any desire can instantly be fulfilled via 1080p stream in the comfort of your own home. Whether you close the […]

How To
5 Super Nice Ways to Say “You’re Not Good in Bed”

Sex is so easy, even chickens with pea-sized brains can do it. (Speaking of: If you’re looking for a hilarious and enlightening post about how, exactly, chickens do it, go here. You’re welcome. Em has a coop in her backyard with eleven hens and one very lucky rooster, and even she learned something.) But if sex is […]

How To
When Anger Is Helpful in a Relationship…And When It’s Not

Count to ten before you speak, we’re often told, especially when fighting with a partner. Take a deep breath and remember you’re talking to someone you love, the advice goes. Being angry means you’ve lost control, the theory goes. But is there ever a time when you shouldn’t count to ten — when a little anger […]

Your Call
Should I Tell My Sibling What I Think of Their New Partner?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, My sister has a […]

How To
How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

We’ve been in the magazine business for more than fifteen years, and we are still suckers for those stupid headlines like “537 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life TONIGHT!” We just can’t help flipping to that article while we’re stuck in the check-out line. What if just one of those “guaranteed” 537 tips is neither ridiculous […]

Dream Interpretation
Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Husband’s Ex-Mistress?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve had two dreams back to […]

5 Terms Every Parent Should Add to Their Sex-Ed Vocabulary

Cory Silverberg is elevating in-home sex-ed to an art form, one kick-ass book at a time. His first kids’ book on reproduction, called WHAT MAKES A BABY (for preschoolers through 2nd-graders), combines inclusive language, helpful descriptions, and bright, bold and beautiful illustrations by Fiona Smyth (that get us all nostalgic for “Free to Be You and Me“) […]