Advice
Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator (VIDEO)

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Is “Cunt” an Appropriate Word for Dirty Talk?

Dear Em & Lo, Hello there. This morning for the first time, my new boyfriend and I fucked. It was going okay until he came out with the word “cunt.”  I froze. Maybe it’s just me, but, I always blush at this word. Now, he wants me to use it when, or rather if, we […]

How To
VIDEO: 7 Steps to Gender Equality…IN THE BEDROOM!

  View & share video via YouTube HERE Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby! But we’ve got a hell of a long way to go: In 2014 the World […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, How Risky Is Oral Sex for STD Transmission?

I’m a teenager who was kinda pressured to give a guy oral (he’s my age) and though it was only for 3 minutes tops, I don’t know anything about his medical history except that he has had sex before. I myself had never done that before, nor have I had sex (I am a virgin) and didn’t even […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, I Lost My Virginity and Now Tampons HURT!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, About 2 months ago my boyfriend and I had sex for the first […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt I Had Sex with My Dead, Abusive, Ex Husband

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Well to start, my husband died from a drug overdose 8 years ago. Even though […]

How To
10 Steps to Winning Valentine’s Day (with Just 1 Trip to the Grocery Store!)

Short on time? Don’t want to spend a lot of money? But still want to acknowledge your undying affection on Valentine’s Day? All it takes is one trip to the grocery store, a little effort, and a lot of love. 1. NO Red Roses! Go with their favorite flower instead — it’s less cliche, more personal.   […]

How To
5 New Things to Try in Bed on Valentine’s Night

We know that it’s pretty traditional on Valentine’s Day to share a candle-lit dinner which concludes with some kind of dessert involving chocolate and strawberries, and then you go home for face-holding, teary-eyed sex together. Well, in case you hadn’t noticed, we’re not exactly the traditional type around here. So here are five better ways […]

How To
A Buttload of Romantic Valentine’s Ideas That Won’t Break the Bank (Or Crush Your Soul)

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub. Between now and Valentine’s day, you’ll get their Foot Massage Tutorial FREE when you buy their video massage guide — the perfect Valentine’s Day Gift! It may […]

How To
10 Reasons to Become a Submissive (If Only for a Night)

  1. You want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities. 2. You’ve been with your partner for a while and things are getting a little routine. 3. You kinda like being held down and tickled. 4. You’ve thought about downloading our incredibly affordable book, “150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink.” 5. […]

How To
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Trump’s First Week in Office)

The cast of The Bachelor left the freezing cold of Waukesha, Wisconsin — hometown of Nick and the two little girls who stabbed their best friend 19 times in a delusional Slenderman ritual — and traveled to the swamps of New Orleans to continue their journey to find out how long their hair extensions could hold up […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: What Should I Do About a Vaginal Tear from Rough Sex?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, Hi, I recently had sex with a friend (with benefits) and he was going a […]

How To
10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

Two articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at EMandLO.com — inability to get over […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

How To
How to Bridge the Erotic Chasm in a Sexless Marriage

by Dr. Margaret Paul for YourTango Don’t give up. Research indicates that over 55 percent of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire in the marriage […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Whipped Cream)

It’s tempting to turn this Bachelor column into an ongoing tutorial on how not to be an adult-baby like Corinne. For instance: don’t brag about being a 24-year-old with your own personal live-in nanny*; don’t have a nanny, period; don’t make fantastic claims about the happiness of those in the service industry (especially those paid to serve you); master […]