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5 Ways to Avoid a Lifetime of Sad, Unsatisfying, Marital Sex

This comment by MEK in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm” is truly depressing. It’s a layered onion of bummer that makes us want to cry. This 21-year marriage has it all: Physical pain? Check. Miscommunication (or total lack of communication)? Check. Selfishness? Check. Resentment? Check. Bitterness? Check! […]

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Dear Dr. Kate, I Keep Getting Bacterial Vaginosis (BV)!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I suffer from Bacterial Vaginosis and it happens when I have unprotected sex. […]

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Should I Stay with My Mentally Abusive, Cheating Husband?

Dear Em & Lo, I recently found out my husband of 12 years has been cheating with a lot of different women. I’ve always known this in my heart, but never could believe it because he knows how to manipulate me. He knows how to cover himself very well.  When he is with other women he […]

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In Defense of the Quickie, Especially for Women

Have you ever glanced over at the alarm clock on your night-stand during sex and calculated exactly how many hours are left until it rings? An extended 69 or a slow and sensual love-making session is suddenly much less appealing when every minute of pleasure is a minute less of shut-eye. In fact, sometimes just […]

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Study Shows the #1 Way to Keep Sex Hot in Long-Term Relationships

By Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango When you first meet someone, start dating, and fall in love, sex is a normal part of the dating equation. The first few months I was with my boyfriend I think I had a hard time finishing sentences because I had to stop everything I was doing and so we could […]

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The 10 Best Couples Costumes to Repurpose for Roleplaying

What is forbidden in the real world can sometimes make for a fun romp between consenting adults (who’ve explicitly outlined their boundaries and agreed on a safe word). It’s called roleplaying, and there are two components that can really help you get into character: 1) the right outfits, and 2) a backstory with emotional tension, […]

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Considering Divorce? 7 Steps to Save a Sinking Marriage

by Susan Heitler for YourTango If you think your marriage is unsalvageable, think again. I’m a specialist in marriage rescue and I’m here to help you save your marriage. You can tell that your marriage probably needs rescuing if you’ve been feeling angry about what’s been happening and/or hopeless about changing the situation for the better. The good news […]

Dream Interpretation
My Boyfriend Just Died But He Came Back to Life in My Dream

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: My boyfriend of 12 years and the father of my kids died 3 weeks ago […]

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Top 10 Striptease Tips Whether You’re a Woman or a Man

Conventional “wisdom” would suggest that stripteases are only done by women for men, those (in)famously “visual creatures.” But everybody likes to look now and then. Turning the tables or making this a joint effort can transform the striptease from something potentially embarrassing or demeaning into the ultimate display of sexual power and confidence. One thing’s for sure: putting […]

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8 Clear Signs It’s NOT Just SEX for Him, It’s LOVE

By Laura Lifshitz for YourTango You’re super-excited about someone and your feelings are intense for them. The sex is off-the-charts hot. The connection is amazing. Waiting to see this person is torture. You cannot imagine another second without being in this man’s arms. You’re so cooked and fried over this guy, we could call you a friggin’ hamburger. But […]

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Dr. Kate: 4 Ways to Alleviate Post-Intercourse Cramps

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have deep penetration with my boyfriend and after intercourse I get  mild […]

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10 Super Easy Ways NOT to Be a Misogynist Pig Like Trump*

*Or Billy Bush Can’t seem to view women as human beings? Is that psychic club from Cro-magnon Man days weighing you down and holding you back? Well we’ve got 10 easy ways to help you conquer your ass-backward ways. Follow these simple steps, and soon you’ll be striding upright with confidence into the 21st century! 1. First […]

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3 Key Things to Do When Your Guy Can’t Get It Up

By David Wignat for YourTango   You’re in bed with your man. You’ve done all your sexiest moves. You smell great. You look fantastic. He hasn’t reached middle age yet and he hasn’t been drinking, so his machinery should be in working order. But when you head down south, you suddenly realize his penis is […]

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Top 10 Unsexy Things That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Improving your sex life isn’t always about switching positions or adding more lube or reading erotica (though those things can certainly help, too). Here are ten everyday things you can do to improve your sex life. 1. Get a good night’s sleep. When you’re tired or stressed you feel unsexy and irritable. And have you ever […]