Advice
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Why Won’t Her Older Boyfriend Have Sex with Her?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Well, I absolutely LOVE older men. I have […]

How To
6 Key Steps to Finding (or Improving) Love

Katie and Gay Hendricks for YourTango.com You’re going about it all wrong. Ladies and gentlemen, if you’re aching to find love this year, forget about “conquering” the dating scene. And if you want to dramatically improve your relationship, here’s our surprising advice: Forget about trying to make your relationship better! Why? Because complaining that there are no good people out […]

How To
Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – NON-Monogamous

We ran the lighthearted post called “Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous” as encouragement for those people who choose to be in exclusive, long-term relationships. Some readers took it as an indictment of non-monogamy, which wasn’t our intention at all. To prove it to you, here are 10 points in favor of the other […]

How To
Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous

Monogamy gets a bad rap these days — people say it’s unnatural, impossible, outdated, stifling. And, yes, sometimes it is! Especially if your wedding anniversary now contains two digits. But anything worth fighting for will usually put you through the ringer, and monogamy is no exception. So before your partner’s bad habits drive you to […]

Your Call
How Do You Deal with a Surprise Breakup?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader: Dear Em & Lo, Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years. He broke up with me last month, and I was […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt My Decent Ex Abused Me

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Recently, I have reconnected with an ex-boyfriend. […]

How To
Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

Wise Guys
Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]

Advice
7 Reasons Erotica Is Better Than Porn

by Vanessa Fox for YourTango “…the moisture is everywhere and the humidity is high. It’s under my skin. The back of my neck is hot under the weight of my long blonde hair that’s quickly losing its glossy perfection and becoming tousled and wavy. It’s that ‘just-fucked’ calling card that makes people take a second […]

How To
10 Clues You’re Dating a Keeper

Here are a few questions to ask yourself about the person you’re dating before offering them a permanent position. Three strikes is forgivable (otherwise neither of us would pass our own test), four is a bit sketchy, and as for five or more…don’t make us say “we told you so.” 1. Are you the center […]