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What Do You Want to Ask Our Wise Guys?

August 13, 2013

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Regular visitors to this site might have noticed that it’s been a while since we posted a new installment of our Wise Guys column — this is the feature in which men from various relationship types/sexuality answer your burning questions. Well, these wise male buddies of ours are raring to go and ready to answer your nosy questions. So… what do you want to know about the male mind?

Bear in mind that not all our Wise Guys are chronic over-sharers, which means they’re much more likely to answer a question about men in general than their own sexual secrets in particular. You can browse the archives here to see what sort of questions they’ve answered in the past.

Post your suggested question in the comments section below, or send it to us anonymously via our contact form here. We have a lot of Wise Guys willing to answer a lot of questions, so the odds are excellent that your question will be answered!

And no, you can’t ask for their phone numbers.

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Wise Guys: How to Make Fireworks in the Bedroom

July 3, 2013

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Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as it’s Independence Day this week, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?”

Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, dark dirty desires like a bit of bubbly. Put your finger where? Lick my what? Call me who? Booze has been called social lube for centuries, and that stays true straight into the bedroom…or kitchen…or your neighbors’ garage. So celebrate your independence by tapping into a bottle of bubbly and let your crazy ass fantasies come to life. God bless America.

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): Sex. It might seem like a foregone conclusion to you swinging singles or young lovers, but to married couples sex is the exception rather than the rule. While that sounds depressing, the lowered expectations this situations brings means that all you have to do to blow your partner’s mind is to show up, take off your clothes and do it. If you’ve spent years dragging your carcass across a desert, even a single drop of water is going to taste like champagne.

Straight Married Guy (Fred): My number one tip is:  Start hours before you get to the bedroom.  A flirty look across the picnic table, a lightly fondled butt as you brush past on your way to the outdoor bar, a whispered saucy comment near the barbecue. Each of these things will light figurative sparklers in your romantic relationship and make your grand finale later that much louder and brighter.

Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): Here is my best tip: maintain eye contact. Why? Because eye contact during sex is hot and underrated, doggie-style be damned. Just as importantly, eyes do not lie — they are a great gauge to determine whether you’re doing the right thing. Not everyone is incredibly vocal about their hot spots or favorite techniques (I am an exception to this: my left nipple should be your best friend). So if you’re not sure what you should be focusing on, focus on their eyes. When they glaze over, try something else. When they widen, keep going. And when they roll back in their head… fireworks.

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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook, a British writer/illustrator working in Berlin with his photographer wife on their cool blog, Überlin; our Gay Guy is Justin Huang, an LA-based freelance film editor, producer, certified personal trainer and the voice of IAmYellowPeril.com; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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Wise Guys: What Would You Think of a Woman Proposing?

June 18, 2013

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would most men be cool with a woman proposing marriage to them? (assuming they’re in a serious committed relationship where marriage has become an unspoken expectation for both parties).” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Figleaf): I was pretty cool with it!

We’d been in a serious committed relationship for years, and I’d known almost right away that I wanted to marry her. The expectation had even gone from unspoken to spoken when her fairly conservative mom cornered us coming out of a hotel room together on a family trip and said, “So what’s the deal with you two?” We stammered a bit and my partner blurted out “But we’re going to get married.” And I nodded vigorously. Now, at the moment it wasn’t strictly true. We’d talked about it a lot but never made an actual decision. We talked about it later, a bit surprised that in our mid-thirties we were still making excuses. I think I said we should make it official. She said “Should we do it?” and I said yes. And we stopped being nervous staying in the same hotel room around her mom. But not until we really were married.

Anyway, while there seems to be a resurgence of “tradition” where people sometimes fly to special destinations just to pop the question and where guys are “formally” asking the bride’s fathers for their daughter’s “hand in marriage,” I think it’s also fine for women to pop the question instead. I also think that if a guy can’t handle being proposed to at the very least with grace and good humor, then he’d be kind of a brittle husband anyway.

joel_derfner_100Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I think most men would probably feel at the very least uncomfortable if a woman proposed to them. Just or not, gender expectations are very powerful in society, and when it comes to things like this I think it’s impossible not to be aware of the taboos involved. My husband proposed to me, and I told him he had to; the closest I can come to explaining is that I wanted to be the girl, though I’m speaking of course in the most metaphorical of senses. (It took him forever, and when he finally did it and I asked him what had led him to take the plunge, he said, “I just decided that I would only propose to you if you didn’t nag me about it for a month, and you just kept nagging, so I kept postponing.”) There must be exceptions, but gender expectations create powerful taboos, and I suspect that even a particularly enlightened man would see this as an instance of the difference between “equal” and “the same.”

Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): Did she ask my mom first? Am I getting the ring I’ve had my heart set on since I was a little boy? I have a good friend who proposed to her husband and I thought it was pretty cool. I’ve certainly been asked out by a few ladies and I’m not sure why this is too-too different. I’m not sure what the engagement ring protocol is at that point, but I’m sure we’d figure it out. And if she felt goofy about the whole thing later, we could always go through the dad/ring/bent knee/flop sweat/she said yes motions of the traditional proposal.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. Tom Miller writes the Tomfoolery blog for YourTango; this week’s Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish; and our Straight Married Guy is Figleaf, the guy behind RealAdultSex.com. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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Wise Guys: Is Sex on a First Date a Relationship Killer?

April 16, 2013

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Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, and we’re both horny?”

Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Thinking that putting out on the first date will kill off any romantic possibilities is pandering to an old skool way of thinking about sex and love: that the guy must court, wait a gazillion years while the woman’s heart oh so steadily burns and yearns and he tries to satisfy himself on a nightly basis, Onan-style, until they are finally wedded before sex can even be in the equation. In the 21st century, sex on the first date could very well just mean that you “have a lot in common and were both horny.” Ask the Wise Guys Your Own Question!Sex doesn’t always complicate, nor is it always a barrier to further emotional intimacy. On the contrary, in fact. Consider all the gay couples around the world who meet each other on a sex date/Internet hook-up/anonymous sex excursion, find that there are other things they like about each other and end up happily part of a pair years later. What really ruins future relationships is being dishonest about your needs and desires. So fuck on the first date if you like! Any guy who would dismiss you for it despite having such a great connection otherwise is too much of a fool to keep on seeing anyway.

Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I don’t think first-date sex together ruins your chances but it does change them.  You know the critical little “voice in your ear” that says “Hold off: good girls shouldn’t ruin their ‘reputations,’” even when you’d rather not wait?  Men get that too.  Only ours says “Go for it now: losers never get another chance.” Neither “voice” is telling the truth but they can have an effect anyway.  Sometimes when we have sex right away the social pressure those “voices” represent get in the way of everything else we might feel about each other. So for both men and women I think it’s worth it to wait at least for the rest of your feelings catch up. And since when did horny have a shelf-life anyway?  Even waiting a few days (three days, not three dates) gives you both time to talk, a chance to take showers and sleep on it in your own beds, a time to decide what you really want instead of what you think you should do, and… time to get your respective bedrooms tidy and kitchens stocked for intimate guests.
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Wise Guys: Can a Man Be Talked into an Open Relationship?

January 7, 2013

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

wiseguy_benStraight Married Guy (Ben)Easy answer — if you don’t want to break up, then you can’t have an open relationship. But really it sounds like it’s time for you and your boyfriend to do a yes / no / maybe list — a kind of sexual proclivities inventory where you see what each of you definitely are up for, what you might want to do if conditions are right and what things are total out of bounds. You each fill out the list on your own and then compare your answers. Whatever you both answer Yes to, go for it. Maybes mean it’s up for negotiation. And No from either of you means No for both of you. There’s a pretty great Yes / No / Maybe list on my Adult Parlour Games site.

Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): First off, you’re my type of lady friend. We should hang. Second, to be perfectly blunt, you should break up with this guy because the two of you don’t belong together. And there are two different explanations as to why:

1) You and he have fundamentally different views on romance. It takes a certain type of person who wishes for an open relationship. You’re polyamorous (which is a fancy academic word for “slutty”). We polyamorous people should really only date each other, not because we’re better than the monogamous, but because we just view love differently, as something fluid and evolving. Even if you don’t want to hurt him, you should realize that eventually, you will. You should let him find someone for whom he is enough. Or, there’s an entirely different scenario…

2) This whole “open relationship” is just really the beginning of a slippery slope that ends with you leaving him, because you’re lying to yourself when you say that you want to stay with him. He’s not fulfilling you in some way, whether it’s sexually, romantically, intellectually, spiritually, whatever. Don’t string him along.

Both possibilities have the same solution. You need to be honest with him, but more importantly, with yourself.

anonymous_suitStraight Single Guy (Max): If you find yourself constantly looking elsewhere, why don’t you just break up? Comfort breeds laziness, which I think can be dangerous to a relationship — you may not want to do the work it takes to keep things going. Look, if you want to sleep with other people, do it. It’s up to you to figure out if you want to be dishonest and cheat, or honest and break up with your partner. If you truly love your boyfriend, you’ll stay with him and be honest about things. But — and I hate to say it — I know for a fact that sometimes a little infidelity can make you realize how much you value your significant other. It just causes a lot of pain and has the potential to destroy everything. Regardless, tread carefully!

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com; our Gay Guy is Justin Huang, an LA-based freelance film editor, producer, certified personal trainer and the voice of IAmYellowPeril.com; and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New York City. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



Wise Guys: What’s a Good Present for a Crush / a Boyfriend / a Husband?

December 11, 2012

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Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s a good holiday present for 1) a guy you’ve just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you’ve been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband?”

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Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): OK, you are married, you may or may not have kids and you want to get your hubby a gift that he will appreciate. I am going to give you two options, and I HIGHLY suggest doing them both. First, get him what he really wants. You already know what it is ladies and if you say you don’t you are lying to yourself. An X-Box, a power tool, a motorcycle, a brew your own beer kit, whatever that thing is that you know he wants but you don’t want him to have, just get it for him, ok? He isn’t going to spend more time with it than you and he is going to be thrilled. Secondly, buy some sexy lingerie, wrap yourself in a bow, make a nice meal and treat him like a king for the night. You already are the perfect gift, after all, he married you, so remind him that by being a little bit naughty!

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): Men are really easy to buy for. The hard part is listening to them long enough to find out what they’d like. We’re relatively simple creatures with a limited number of interests, more than likely just one. So peer with us down our tunnel of enthusiasms and then select related gifts at an appropriate level of expense and thoughtfulness. As a music fan, I’d be pleased with a CD from the girl I’m dating, gig tickets from my girlfriend, and a subscription to a music streaming service or record label from my wife. Once the woman in my life has devoted enough time and brain space to absorbing my favourite bands, genres, sub-genres, frequency of bass, etc., then picking out a present is the least of her concerns!


Gay Single Guy (Michael): 
No matter who the guy, it should be something that show’s you’re paying attention, that you know the real him. That’s why you should be doing your Xmas/birthday shopping all year ’round, at least in you head — when he mentions something he loves, make a note of it. Pricing doesn’t matter as long as it’s thoughtful, but you can use a formula that’s something like [time spent together] x [financial situation] = amount you should spend (and I use the word should lightly). So, if you’ve only known each other for a few weeks but make bank like Oprah, then you should be willing to dish; if you’ve been married for years and are going through a rough patch financially, then a homemade gift that costs less than 20 bucks to make is fine.

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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook, a British writer/illustrator working in Berlin with his photographer wife on their cool blog, Überlin; our Gay Guy is Daniel, a one-time stripper and sex columnist; and our Single Straight Guy is a friend of ours from NY who wishes to remain anonymous. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



Wise Guys: Is a Saucy Love Ring a Good Gift for a Dude?

December 4, 2012

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would a really nice love ring (a.k.a. c*ck ring) be an appropriate holiday gift for a woman’s new sex partner, boyfriend or husband?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): Definitely! I mean, you’re pretty much giving him the gift of sex. What man in their right mind wouldn’t appreciate that? That being said, you should probably have an electronic something or other to accompany it. As much as we love to play with our own gadget, it’s always great to get a new one.

 

Single Gay Guy (Abraham Zeus Zapata):  I’ve given c*ck rings to many of my guy friends!!! 100% serious: they make wonderful birthday presents, stocking stuffers, Christmas gifts, Hanukkah favors, Kwanzaa prizes, winter solstice sundries…

Why, you ask? Two reasons:

1. Their girlfriends wanted to, but were too scared to get one for him.
2. Many guys have NO CLUE what the point of them is.

After a verbal tutorial, guys’ eyes would get wide and they’d say “REAAALLY?” to which I’d knowingly nod. On the next encounter there’s always a coy smile on both guy and gal.

Go ahead and exchange some holiday cheer – and let me get your man a Chia Pet instead.

 

Married Straight Guy (Ben D.): I’d heard of c*ck rings before, but until you asked me this question, I never knew what they were used for. A quick and interesting internet search and now I get the question. Call me old-fashioned, but I would never use one. And if someone purchased one for me I would calmly let them know that I’m open to suggestions to help you get off — vibrators, domination, submission, dirty talk, etc. — but the idea of restricting blood flow out of your penis does not sound safe. The claimed benefits of cock rings are harder erection and make you last longer. So if you’re having issues with either of those (why else would she be buying you a cock ring?) may I suggest do a push up, eat some vegetables, run a lap. Being in good shape does wonders for your erection and sex drive. If the problem is not lasting long enough, the answer is, practice at home. Being a great lover is a gift you and your partner will appreciate.*

*Note from Em & Lo: In the olden days of sex toys, cock rings were mostly solid metal or hardcore leather rings that weren’t necessarily safe, and Wise Guy Ben would have been right to say thanks-but-no-thanks to the gift (those kind of rings are a staple of BDSM play). But a more modern version of rings — often referred to as love rings or couples’ rings, for example the Tor 2 by Lelo — have a very different design and purpose. These rings are kinder, gentler, and more pliable, with a focus on helping stimulate the woman’s clitoris during intercourse — as well as providing a different sensation for the guy… and all this with none of the risk of an embarrassing trip to the E.R. that came along with old-school cock rings!

However, we are publishing Ben’s answer as-is, because we think it’s important to give you an example of how YOUR guy MIGHT react. He might not understand what the toy does or why you’re giving it to him. He might be a little nervous or unsure. He might even be a little bit hurt if he Googles like Ben did and thinks you’re talking about old-school, BDMSM-style rings…  So you need to tell him upfront exactly what this toy will do… for both of you. As Abraham notes, the results will be well worth it!

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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Single Gay Guy is Abraham Zeus Zapata, an actor, writer and artist living in the Houston area; our Single Straight Guy is Scott Phrenetik, who moonlights as a DJ in Dallas; and our Married Straight Guy is Ben D., a former professional fighter who would now much rather spend time with his wife and baby son than get punched in the face by a sweaty man. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



Wise Guys: What Turns a Hook-Up Into a Girlfriend?

November 27, 2012

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What turns a hook-up into a girlfriend?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Intimacy and laughter are what turn a hook-up into a lasting relationship. Continued intimacy and laughter will then lead to marriage — at least, in my experience. Hot hook-ups when I was single were great and all, but if the guy bored me, or if there was little connection outside the bedroom, there was no chance I was about to be picking out curtains at Ikea with him. Of course, guys are weird and sometimes a man just isn’t looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. So even if he’s busting his gut and a nut every time you’re together, he just might not be ready. Ask, and move on if that’s what you’re looking for.

Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): A baby!

 

 

 

 

Straight Single Guy (Adam): I can’t speak for everyone else, but for me, a hook-up turns into someone I want to have as my girlfriend when I don’t just want to hook up with her. If I spend all my time thinking about all the things I want to do with my hook-up other than hooking up, then that’s a telltale sign she’s not just a hook-up.

As for whether a hook-up has, in fact, transformed into an actual girlfriend, I think that’s something that can only happen after we’ve both had a conversation about it. It would probably be one-sided and go something like this: “Hey remember when I was treating you like a piece of meat? Yeah, so I’m all done with that, and I’d really like to take it to the next level. I realize I didn’t treat you with a lot of respect before, but I’m totally ready to buy you flowers and kiss puppy dogs with you and all that shit. What do you say? … Hey, where are you going?”

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Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is David Jacobs, a NYC-based photographer; our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross, who works for a network news program and lives in Brooklyn with his husband and two dogs; and our Straight Single Guy is Adam, a lawyer and native Floridian in his early thirties. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



Wise Guys: Can Men Handle the Fact of Female Bodily Functions?

November 20, 2012

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Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Can straight men really not handle the fact that women fart, poop, menstruate, etc? Are women really supposed to hide these things/not talk about them with their partner?”

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Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): The problem with this question is how it is worded. It IS a fact that women have the same gross bodily functions that men have. It is also a fact that we pretend not to know about the first fact. We pretend not to know for the same reason you pretend like we are the ones making you hold in your farts. “But men fart all the time, it’s not fair!” you say. “Men poop and often joke about it! That’s disgusting, why should I have to pretend like I don’t have an asshole!” Well, for starters, you are right. It’s not fair, and yes, it is a double standard. But in this case, it’s a self inflicted double standard. Women conceal their bodily functions from each other, too. You don’t fart loudly and proudly in front of each other like we do, and you certainly don’t discuss your poop as frequently. You don’t think farts are even funny, which I can;t even begin to understand. We think they are hysterical! So this isn’t an issue about straight men not being able to handle it, we certainly can. But can you?

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): This is an issue that separates the men from the boys. While enjoying farting is a childish pursuit we never quite grow out of, being able to enjoy – or at least tolerate – the farts of the fairer sex is something only a real man can do. Squeamishness about a partner’s bodily functions is simply a symptom of Commitmentphobia. Unless the woman’s *really* gassy, the only thing scary about her farts is that they indicate a relationship moving to the next level. If she feels comfortable enough to give as good as she gets, then you’re in a sweet – if not sweet-smelling – spot. Here, equality is vital: if you fart in front of your woman, she may do so in front of you; likewise pissing. My wife and I have drawn the line at “sharing” our poos, mainly because of a weird hang-up on my part. She assures me that she doesn’t care – after all, she has to hear my poos, and smell them afterwards, so the only thing I’m sparing her is the visual of my face straining as I squeeze them out. But I fear that this is the last taboo – that once we cross the line into shared shitting, we’ll never be able to come back, and we may never find each other attractive again. Irrational, maybe, but some things are just too disgusting to share.

Gay Single Guy (Daniel): How men handle the matter of women’s biological realities really depends on the man and how much “reality” plays into his idea of sexually attractive, and I suspect, how he views women in totality. In other words, if a man can’t handle the fact a woman farts, poops, menstruates or even shaves their body hair, what kind of distorted view of women is he clinging to? One where the orifices of women are only for their sexual enjoyment? It sounds ridiculous because it is. On the opposite side of this coin, there are plenty of women–and gay men for that matter–who are totally okay going on and hiding the farting and nose picking et al away from her/his significant others. And that’s probably as a result of their own sense of decorum, but the bottom line is that some straight men don’t care, and others are idiots.

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Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook, a British writer/illustrator working in Berlin with his photographer wife on their cool blog, Überlin; our Gay Guy is Daniel, a one-time stripper and sex columnist; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



Wise Guys: What Men Wish They’d Known When They Were Younger

November 13, 2012

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Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you wish you had known about sex when you were younger?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Figleaf): Wow. There are probably hundreds of things I wish I’d known about sex when I was younger but the number one-with-a-bullet thing I wish I’d known when I was younger is that, contrary to the Santa Clause maxim, it’s actually as good to receive as it is to give. Really. No kidding!

I grew up in the “she comes first” era which, while certainly an improvement of the earlier “she comes?” era, still had a big element of putting women on pedestals and treating them like dainty, passive, recipients rather than participants in sex. I remember being really, literally shocked out of the mood when one partner pushed my knees apart, popped me into her mouth, then popped back up a moment later with this huge grin and said, “Oh, I just love doing this.”

At the time it simply hadn’t occurred to me that she might enjoy making me moan as much as I enjoyed doing the same for her.

Anyway, that’s the lesson: if you’re used to only giving, or only receiving, you’re missing half the fun.

daniel_100Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Truth be told, I have always had a very liberal attitude about sex. What I wish people would stop perpetuating about sex is that there is shame in it. For example, why do we let kids ridicule masturbation and feel ill at ease about it? What’s that nonsense about?

mark_luczak_100Straight Married Guy (Mark Luczak): Gosh darnit, how to get more of it, or any at all! But seriously, I was raised in a pretty conservative household and school environment, so a lot of the early intel and guidance my parents and teachers imparted to me was the stereotypical old-school, one-Right-Way-to-do-things-or-else talking points (I won’t say the A-word, but…yeah). I guess I do wish I had been privy to a much more well-rounded variety of points of view. I like to think that even my much younger self was mature enough to process it all with an open-mind, yet still make thoughtful, safe, and responsible decisions.

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Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; our (Newly-Wed) Straight Married Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University; and our (Long-Time-Wed) Straight Married Guy is Figleaf, the guy behind RealAdultSex.com.To ask the guys your own question, click here.