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What to Say to a Partner Who Wants to Get Kinkier Than You Do

Reader bklynbug said the following in response to our post “Your Call: He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” One word: dialog. You say he’s mentioned it a few times, but it doesn’t sound like the two of you have really sat down and talked. Seriously. Clothes on, at the kitchen table, cards all […]

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If You Want to Make Sex Equal, Stop Viewing Penetration as Submissive

Reader Lily had a lot to say this week in response to our (oldie but goodie) post “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” We’ve gathered her various comments into one post here for your edification. Preach it, Lily! And we would just add that misperception doesn’t make something so; if we […]

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Why You Shouldn’t Freak Out About That Incest Fantasy

Reader Jace shared the following advice in response to our post, “Dream Interpretation: OMG I Slept with My Mom!” Just to place this out there for people who feel ashamed, incestuous fantasies while awake aren’t intrinsically bad either; the reason for their occurrences can be just like the dreams, except you have control. What you’ll […]

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Having Secret Fantasies in a Relationship Is Natural & Normal

Matt, one of our best commenters, took issue with reader Jo’s claim — made in response to “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” — that fantasizing about someone other than your partner during sex is “a bit rapey”: Jo, you’re taking things that are well within the spectrum of what most people would call […]

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Is It “Rapey” to Fantasize About Someone Else During Sex?

Reader Jo said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” For the record, not all Comments of the Week are opinions we agree with. And in this case in particular, we definitely don’t agree with the idea that fantasizing about someone else during […]

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How to Know When to Invite a New Partner to Thanksgiving

In response to Your Call: Why Didn’t He Invite Me to Thanksgiving?, Natalia encourages everyone to get into the holiday spirit:  I think that mostly of us are forgetting one very important detail: We are talking about a person who will spend the Thanksgiving day ALONE. Many commenters have said “Well, it would be weird to invite someone too soon,” or […]

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Why You Shouldn’t Judge Spelling Mistakes in an Online Dating Profile

Reader Derek said the following in response to the post, “Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)”. Though we didn’t write this piece, we did choose to publish it, and we never considered the implications of judging someone’s grammar and spelling mistakes on an online dating site. Which is kind of […]

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Why It’s No Big Deal If Your Boyfriend Masturbates…Like, a Lot

Reader Chris said the following in response to our post “Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?” We have to say, we really dig his idea of not “borrowing trouble” when it comes to a relationship. There are so many real issues that you will have to deal with over the course of […]

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Baby Talk in Bed Helps My Tough Guy Get in Touch with His Feminine Side

Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]

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What “Intelligent Design” Has to Say About Strap-On Sex

We love a good burn — and a good burn that overturns gender-based stereotypes about sex is even better. Which is why we couldn’t resist featuring MVP commenter Johnny’s zinger this week, which was in response to an old-school nay-sayer in our (ever popular) conversation surrounding the post, “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with […]