Reader “Don” had this to say in response to our post “How Many Partners Officially Makes You a Slut?” While we can see the benefits of reclaiming the word and wearing it as a badge of honor, we also appreciate, like Don, the importance of not using it any self-denigrating way, however subtly: Once, a close friend described […]
We can never resist a feel-good, body-positive, you-go-boy! comment. This one is from Olatunji in response to the article “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me“: The size is not what matters. The smaller organ has a much greater erectile capacity than the larger one. The size of the flaccid […]
Jenny Bean had a thoughtful (and somewhat depressing) response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm“: I think society tells us girls early in life that we shouldn’t want sex, sex is bad. Girls that do like sex or God forbid have a sex drive [are] slu**s, who**s, etc. Men […]
BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]
Sometimes a reader comment demands more than just a “thumbs down” or a two-sentence rebuttal. Sometimes it warrants its own full-length post. J Male’s recent response to “Why Women Have Ravishment and Rape Fantasies” was one such comment. Our reply is below his: “Rape fantasies were a way [for women] to avoid taking blame for their […]
Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]
Reader bklynbug said the following in response to our post “Your Call: He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” One word: dialog. You say he’s mentioned it a few times, but it doesn’t sound like the two of you have really sat down and talked. Seriously. Clothes on, at the kitchen table, cards all […]
Reader Lily had a lot to say this week in response to our (oldie but goodie) post “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” We’ve gathered her various comments into one post here for your edification. Preach it, Lily! And we would just add that misperception doesn’t make something so; if we […]
Reader Jace shared the following advice in response to our post, “Dream Interpretation: OMG I Slept with My Mom!” Just to place this out there for people who feel ashamed, incestuous fantasies while awake aren’t intrinsically bad either; the reason for their occurrences can be just like the dreams, except you have control. What you’ll […]
Matt, one of our best commenters, took issue with reader Jo’s claim — made in response to “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” — that fantasizing about someone other than your partner during sex is “a bit rapey”: Jo, you’re taking things that are well within the spectrum of what most people would call […]
Reader Jo said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” For the record, not all Comments of the Week are opinions we agree with. And in this case in particular, we definitely don’t agree with the idea that fantasizing about someone else during […]
In response to Your Call: Why Didn’t He Invite Me to Thanksgiving?, Natalia encourages everyone to get into the holiday spirit: I think that mostly of us are forgetting one very important detail: We are talking about a person who will spend the Thanksgiving day ALONE. Many commenters have said “Well, it would be weird to invite someone too soon,” or […]
Reader Derek said the following in response to the post, “Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)”. Though we didn’t write this piece, we did choose to publish it, and we never considered the implications of judging someone’s grammar and spelling mistakes on an online dating site. Which is kind of […]
Reader Chris said the following in response to our post “Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?” We have to say, we really dig his idea of not “borrowing trouble” when it comes to a relationship. There are so many real issues that you will have to deal with over the course of […]
Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]
We love a good burn — and a good burn that overturns gender-based stereotypes about sex is even better. Which is why we couldn’t resist featuring MVP commenter Johnny’s zinger this week, which was in response to an old-school nay-sayer in our (ever popular) conversation surrounding the post, “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with […]
